shinedown Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Hi all, newbie here. Just had a question regarding my current situation. I'm basically seeing a friends ex at the moment. Now before everyone gets judgemental, they've been split-up for well over a year now and everybody involved is cool about it so it's not a problem. We've been out a couple of times now and we both seem to be enjoying each others company and laughing and having fun which is good. We've actually known each other for about 4 years now but have never got to know each other properly in a 1-on-1 situation until the last couple of weeks as we've only ever seen each other in a large group. And we've both been finding out that we've got loads of things in common that we never knew before. I've got the impression that she is quite keen as everytime we go out she refers to the next time we'll meet. Her parents (who I've met before and know) have also invited me over as well, but whether that's a good sign or not I don't know. I thought that maybe they just want to get to know me better as I am dating their daughter afterall. My basic question is (after the waffle above) - is there any other way to tell if she sees me as more than just an old friend, apart from straight-up asking her? Because even though we're going out neither of us has actually mentioned the 'date' word. I just wondered if it's something any of you have been through before or anything similar? I like her alot and would definitely like to be with her properly. But I also don't want to lose her as a friend if I can help it. So do I just be straight-up and talk to her about it or just see where it goes naturally? Or look to see if there are any particular signs that might tell me something? Thanks for any help.
Author shinedown Posted April 13, 2009 Author Posted April 13, 2009 One last point quickly. I also wondered if you think she knows I like her in that way or not? The fact I've asked her out and want to spend time with her should be a signal enough. The only reason I ask this is because I don't want to tell her about how I feel only to find out that she never had a clue. So I'm kinda hoping that she has an inclination already and could possibly feel the same way. Ladies opinions on this would be good as you've probably been in that position.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 You can try projecting your wishes onto her and hope that she reads minds. Come on, man up and ask her to be your girlfriend. The fact that she was a friends' ex wouldn't cause animosity if everyone is comfortable with it. You're only using the ex as an excuse to not take the first step.
Author shinedown Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 Thanks for the replies. Looks like I'll have 'the talk' with her then. If it all goes wrong and I've read everything out of context then hey, that's life. It's too short to say 'I wonder' I suppose.
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