Tryng2Trust08 Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Ok...I dont know whats going on. After text agruments with my ex, I finally said enough, we didnt need to carry on texting conversations, w hadnt talked in months. I get a text from him saying I could call him to get closure(I have been upset with some things he had said to me). The last time I called to make some sense of this, he ignored my call. So, I was like fine, maybe I do need to tell him some things on the phone so I can feel better and get things off my chest. So, I did...we didnt argue, but I told him exactly how he made me feel, and some things he said really upset me and I really thought deep down we were friends. He of course refused to apologize cuz its not his style, and thats fine, thats his choice. He didnt seem to sympathetic, which was ok with me,too because I felt better letting him know how I felt, no matter if he cared or not. He thinks he shouldnt continue communicating, and I agreed. Like I said there was no fighting, just talking and explaining. We talked for an hour, then as we were getting off the phone and I said I would respect his wishes and not text him, have a nice life, etc...He said ok, bye and my name. 5 minutes later is he texting me joking around. He then went on to ask if I had been dating of sleeping with anyone and asked if he could come over in the am to have sex. I joked back with him, said its not a good idea the next day was Easter and I had a lot to do in the am. He asked maybe during the week and he wanted to know if I would be ok with sex, or if I would get upset. We have had no contact since, that was Saturday night. I dont get him...But after talking to him and hearing what he said to say just turned me off more and my feelings for him are about gone, so Im REALLLLY glad we had that phone conversation, just wish he didnt text me after!! Im thinking maybe he wanted our phone conversation to go differently...he said to me that I broke up with him and he was fine with how things were going(of course he was, he got evrything his way!) But then he reinforced the statement that he does not want to date me and I agreed..but for some reason deep down I think he feels differently.any thoghts?
sexyboy_69_69 Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Well, my gf broke up with me and since she ignored me at first, i have gladly decided to ignore her texts and emails and have been the last several weeks. I think i know how your ex is feeling because im kind of feeling the same way about my ex and although we did not have the phone conversations as you guys did yet, i know we will in the future. Your ex is either 1. Missing you terribly and wants to chat and possibly have sex with you in order to win you back and start a relationship again OR 2. Wants to have you as a good friend and sexual partner with no strings attached, allowing him to pursue other girls but still have you around. In my position , I am going to remain single and try to experience other girls and possibly find one i love and are willing to commit to. However, at the same time, i would not mind having my ex around as a friend to have sex with or enjoy her friendship even if we are not having sex. This allows for me to compare my ex with other girls and answers the following statement: Is my ex the one or is there someone out there that is more compatible with me and if so, then the breakup was a good thing. Hope this helps, its all i could think of
xpaperxcutx Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Your (ex) boyfriend is a jerk. He's only keeping you around for a booty call. I believe. you have alot more respect than that, so I'd advise you to erase his number and ignore him.
fastnfurious Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 I totally agree with the other guys. What he is doing to you is playing with your emotions. Don't get sucked into it I say. It's just not worth the heartache.
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 No, Im not stupid, I have not seen him for months and I rejected the hook up for sex and told him thats not me and he agreed that we should not.(of course after I said no) It's upsetting to me, thats all he sees me as now, after having a nice friendship. Doesnt he feel like a total jerk? But, like I said it just made me lose more respect and the feelings are almost gone. So, thats a good thing I just want someone to explain this....we werent suppose to talk again, he asked me to leave him alone, I am not for him, etc...Why text me right after we get off the phone?
Author Tryng2Trust08 Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 I just dont get why he would text me right after we get off the phone, after having a closure "talk" that he suggested. He just reinforced the fact that he will not take blame for any of this and if I settled down he would've still hung out with me, and Im the one who broke up with him. I was nice, didnt say one thing rude Any else have any input? I know I am not going to be a bootycall, no thanx and I have already told him this.
arlene619 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 It seems to me your xBF just wanted some attention. He just wanted to carry on a conversation hoping you would beg for him to come back to you; or he expected you to say something about getting back together after that "closure talk". He seems like a total jerk! You're better off without him! I'm glad you got your head on straight!
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