dbry219 Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 I'm sexually attracted to this guy and he seemed to really like me. We have had sex on two occasions and both times it was very awkward. It wasn't bad, it just wasn't totally satisfying for either of us. I have never had a problem satisfying my partners before. I was very nervous since I hadn't been with anyone in over a year but I don't think that was the problem. This guy is very sexy and turns me on but I could not climax and nor did he. We actually kept at it for hours but neither one of us reached the goal. I feel awful, that I couldn't make it happen for him. He told me he rarely does and it wasn't me. I would like to keep seeing him but since the second failed attempt we have not seen each other. He hasn't been calling like before and when he does he doesn't mention anything about us getting together again. Before we had sex we talked on the phone a lot and even had phone sex which worked very well. How can I get him to try again? And if we try again what can I do to make it successful? I really want to rock his world!
paddington bear Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 How old are you both? From my experience, this is not common, for a man anyway. You're going to get so hooked on 'rocking his world' when he never managed to rock your world. He admitted that he has problems, so now he's set the challenge, and you're thinking 'I'm going to be the special one who gets him over this sexual problem', when in fact, maybe he has real problems with sex and intimacy which neither you nor any woman can 'fix'. Sure men can get nervous the first time they have sex with you, and I think most women are aware of this and understanding about it, as we are most likely nervous too - however, for you to say that "We actually kept at it for hours but neither one of us reached the goal. I feel awful, that I couldn't make it happen for him. He told me he rarely does and it wasn't me." makes me worry, you're taking all this on-board yourself, like it's your problem, when most probably the problem is his and was there long before you entered his world and try as you might to be 'the one' who makes it all better, you might not be able to, I've kind of been where you are now, and in the end I had to walk away, because I got hooked on making this guy be totally turned on by me, when in fact he was simply incapable of normal sexual function, nothing to do with me at all, so be careful how much time you invest in someone who may have major sexual disfunctional problems that you might not be qualified enough to fix.
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