memorex21 Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Ladies, does she want me back or is she crazy? So we were going out for round a year and half, she is the one who ended it. We haven't spoke in length in round 4 months then she starts reaching out to me in small and subtle ways, FB chat, IM's etc. Randomly though she accuses me of cheating on her when we were going out?! It's almost like when she warms up to me to protect herself she wants to start a fight and view me as a bad person to justify not being with me? For example we met up a few weeks ago to talk and instead of having a nice chat she brings up every past mistake I made and starts crying. Then on my drive home she calls and wants to chat nicley about family and stuff??? Then the next day she asks me why I was calling her? This of course all being while she is "so moved on" and seeing someone else.
xpaperxcutx Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 She's projecting her relationship problems on you. She probably has some problems in her life right now, but because she doesn't want to admit that she's partially responsible for alot of it, she turned to you ( the ex- boyfriend) as the target of her unhappiness. You can either put up with it ( and lose your own self respect) or you tell her that enough is enough and that you had already moved on.
BCCA Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 A wise man once said, "you don't look under the bed unless you hide there yourself" She probably cheated on you, but wants to believe it was somehow justified because you cheated as well. She might feel guilty now, and want an easy way out of coming clean. Seriously though man, what are you even talking to her for? What are you getting out of these random conversations, and pendulum swings of emotion? Psycho alert! Psycho alert! ...
LovesHangover Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 You, I, and everyone else on this website can make up tons of stories about why your ex is doing what she is doing. My advice: Just admit that you don't know and facilitate a conversation where you both are clear about your intentions and understood. Tell her that her actions confuse you and ask for clarification because no one else can give you a valid answer. Communication takes speaking and listening! Just be clear: fully express yourself and allow her to do the same. Agree upon ground rules for the conversation: honesty, respect, no profanity, and "inside voices please". LOL. You can make up your own rules together. Then you can get back together, be friends, or move on. Your choice! It's your life and you should live a life that inspires you, not based on the opinions of others. In my opinion, it is not nice calling people psycho or any other name! It is very immature. No one thinks or behaves in the same manner. We are all different. What seems weird to you may be totally acceptable to someone else. Please just get clear, honey! Best of luck to you!!!!
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