londonboylost Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Ok boys and girls, This is a long one so brace yourselves. Met an overseas exhange student last year whilst doing a teaching course. Everything was good till the stress of teaching kicked in affecting our relationship. Living in halls didn't help too. So we persevered till May when she went home. I agreed that if our paths met again I'd take it off again from there. However she flew back for one week and everything was better than before. When she flew home I went travelling for 6 months which left her devastated. We agreed to be together during this time. Ironically after 3 months of conversing via email I decided to cut my trip short and go back home to London to see her to make go of things. Ironically she emailed me the day I was in the travel agents in India saying whe wanted to go for friendship. She was in Milan (she's dutch) learning Italian. So I continued on with my travels. When I returned she flew straight over to see me in November for my birthday. Again everything was marvellous, love , s*x the works. I assumed she's be studying till July, I'll be studying so we'll see what happens. Again I didn't tag us as a couple because I'm not an optimist with long distance, etc. So December arrives and we discuss my plans to fly to Holland. Unfortunately I couldn't do this as I had studies and work. I asked her to fly to London but she says no and instead flies to Milan to see some friends. This is where is gets tricky. New Year comes whilst she's in Italy and we phone each other three times declaring our love for each other. Six days later on her return I ask her whether she kissed anybody. She's hesistant then admits she has. There are pics of her and this guy on facebook. This drive me with jealously. Over the course of the next month things are not easy especially since she is conversing with this guy who says she should visit Italy and stay at his. One night I ring her whilst drunk asking what is going on with this fella, she says harmless flirting etc. I yell and get angry. The next day she says she's planning on going to Italy again and doesn't know whether to stay at his or girlfriends. I call her bluff and say she should stay at his. The next day she says to me she's going to Italy to see him for 4 days. I go insane to say the least especially when I was thinking of springing up in July with a ring to commit. When she goes to the aiport (she's in Holland) I'm in London I call and tell her I'm in love with her, always have, always will whilst emotional, etc at the same time at the thought of her leaving for another man. When she returns we talk and she talks about doing her Masters back in London in September 09. However the curiousity and jealously got the better of me of what happened in Italy. She doesn't tell me saying it's none of my business. I done a nasty horrible things saying if she didn't tell me I would send her friends family videos of us together. She then admitted to sleeping with him saying I broke her. She was upset but admnitted you can sleep with someone else but be in love with someone else. IE - Me I assume. I was heartbroken. We contunued to argue for the next month with me trying to win her back, then sometimes getting upset calling her a cheating **** , etc. One day I called whilst drunk and her Dad answered requesting for me to leave his daughter alone. I wa polite but asked him how could his daghter say she was in love with me but then met someone else. He didn't have an opinion on the matter. I called a week later and she was still angry with me saying that I can't handle that some Italian may have swept her off her feet in under a year, etc. I sent emails everyday asking for forgiveness for my behaviour she wouldn't reciprocate. She has since blocked me on facebook and changed her mobile number. I have her landline with her birthday due but I can't wont call as it will annoy her. She won't tell me her future plans, they were originally Paris and Berlin. I think she is going to Italy now. I'm over the **** but I've lost a good friend, girlfriend out of this. She could meet Prince Charming and I'll still be happy for her. If she didn't I'd still like to try and woo her to how things were. It's different when you see each other face to face after all. I hope she comes back to London to do her masters and perhaps see what happens but for now she says she never wants to see or speak to me ever again...... Do girls change their mind? Do you think there is a chance of reconciliation? Can we ever be friends again? Should I delete mutual friends so she misses me more and can't keep a check on me? I'd love to see her again but the break up via distance is even worse than in person I find. Help me out........... PS - I'll add more when I get the time.
Author londonboylost Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 Anyone?:confused::confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:
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