AbyBaby Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 I met this girl and we dated. We spent a lot of time together, almost 10 hours and talked endlessly about everything from shared interests to music and the likes... the conversation went on and on... But when she called second time it felt like I didnt have much to talk about since everything was chatted on the previous time. I was struggling to figure out what to talk about. And Ive had this problem in socializing with friends as well. Once you get past the initial hurdle and get to know each other and talk about common interests and stuff, what do you talk about with people on a day to day basis? Like what do you talk about when you hang out together at bars and stuff? I am new to this country and to dating here so this would be a good learning for me. Any advise will be greatly appreciated Aby
Double D Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Hi! Well I would say that after the intial what type do u like. Start asking why she likes them. For example if she likes a particular film or song ask her why. Then u start not only getting to know her but also understanding her inspirations.
CailinPig Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 what country are you in? in general, people talk about tv, general topics, stuff that's on the news, stuff thats going on around you wherever you are... things like that. you don't have t talk about her, you can talk about you, any funny stories that happened you or your friends or family recently etc
Timmers Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 If you listen to her as she speaks, she's constantly telling you what she wants to / is ok with talking about. For example if she says she likes a particular band, you can ask so many questions off of that statement alone like: - What makes them so great? - What are your favorite songs? - Have you been to any of their concerts? - etc... So you say you've spent 10 hours together but that's not a long time. You've barely gotten to know her, I'm afraid. There's a lot more for you to discover! Even years after knowing someone you're always finding out new things. I learned a lot of cool tricks on how to talk to women from this site: http://getagirlfriendtoday.com/ It's all free and they've got a lot of good advice.
colosseum Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 If you listen to her as she speaks, she's constantly telling you what she wants to / is ok with talking about... Listening is a lost art. Everything happens from there; you listen, you comment on what you've heard, and you follow up with relevant questions because you are interested in finding out more.
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