blues414 Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 hello all. i will try and make this as short as possible. basically i had seen this boy around and knew him through mutual friends, and we finally started "seeing eachoher" at the beginning of this year. we spent every day together and things were going great. i mean i noticed he was a bit arrogant at times, talked more than listened, drinks quite a bit and is a huge flirt.. but i saw past these things i guess cause i liked his charm and was happy to be with someone. i went away a few weeks ago to a place he use to live in, and he claims he got phone calls saying i was all over his friends, which i know i wasn't. i dont even know if i believe that he did get these calls, but we got in a huge blowout over it. i thought that it would be over by then. but it still continued. and when i asked him why he was still talking to me if he thought i was with his friends, he said "well obviously because i like you" and it was about the first time he actually admitted it. now everytime we go out together and he drinks, we tend to get in an argument, we've been in 3 since we started dating, and he brings up my trip and his friends every time. he had a bad breakup in the past and told me from the beginning that he wasnt ready for the bf gf title and i stupidly let my self get attached anyways. now he says that we arent even bf gf and we are already fighting. we got in another fight last night after he also continued to call other girls infront of me, as well as his guys cousin, to invite them for a day trip for the following day, and he brought up the trip i took and his friends again, and then sped off. i called him and he ignored all my calls. tonight i called and he said he was doing something and would call me back in half an hour.. that was 2.5 hours ago. to end this i will let you all know that many have told me to stay away from him because of how he acts when he goes out (alot alot alot alot of drinking, crazy amounts of flirting, etc) but i stupidly let myself like him too much because we do have some great times together. but i do feel as though he may not be the right now. i guess i thought i could just make him see im different than other girls and maybe he would want me as his gf. what i want to know is that should i just wait it out, wait for him to call and realize that he did tell me he wasnt looking for anything serious, and try to have fun with him.. or do i just cut him off completely. don't answer any calls or anything. please reply asap because im a mess and we only dated for short while.. maybe my heart still hearts from a past serious relationship and i just wanted someone new? HELP PLEASE!
single ape Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 unless you want to repeat tonight another 20 times.. you cut him off completely.. if he's not giving you what you want.. don't just take what he gives.. you have to have a little more respect for yourself than that. right? right.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 It's time to go NC on this guy. He doesn't respect you, he isn't respecting your time. And the fact that he went ape-**** over something he was told (or something he made up) is complete immaturity. Besides - if you guys are not exclusive, why does he care what YOU'RE doing? You should be able to do the same things he's doing ("crazy amounts of flirting"). He expects you to make him a priority and you are only his option. He's dirt. Totally ignore him. BTW, if you do what kitten suggested and "be honest" , you are going to get walked all over because he'll see how much of a pull he has over you. You won't be able to pull yourself away while he continues to abuse that power. Just go NC!
Lucky_One Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Cut him off completely. Being with someone toxic just because you are "happy to be with someone" is a sure way to end up being used because of your desperation. He's bad news.
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