BobSacamento Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Those rules are fine...if you want to attract desperate men.
samspade Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 sam, nothing personal but you've hit on a pet peeve of mine. Guys who become the right guy, which isn't naturally who they are, so when they start to relax, it's the worst experience. I sympathize with that. I don't advocate "relaxing" once you're comfortable. I advocate self-improvement, and maintaining those improvements. Many men put on a show and then pull back the curtain to reveal the little ogre inside. That's not what I mean by being the right guy at all. Bill Parcells said, if you're not getting better, you're getting worse. I agree!
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Too many rules are ridiculous.. I have ONLY ONE rule.. which is.. 'It's my way or the highway' Hahaha...gotta love Lizzie....
D-Lish Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Personally, I think the big rule people should follow regardless of gender is one that should be imposed on thyself. Practice self respect.
LovieDove24 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Rule books are intended to manipulate the outcome. The only problem is that when you've "hooked" and "caught" someone with a bunch of manipulative rules, how will you "keep" them interested, if it's not the person you really are? Also, once games begin, where do they end? PRECISELY! You can certainly play the rules and get the guy, the "rules" came about for a reason--often times they work. Who doesn't like a good game of cat and mouse? Its human nature to want what you can't have. But it comes at the price of not being yourself and I believe thats too hefty a price to pay.
Isolde Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Rule books are intended to manipulate the outcome. The only problem is that when you've "hooked" and "caught" someone with a bunch of manipulative rules, how will you "keep" them interested, if it's not the person you really are? Also, once games begin, where do they end? Yes, the thing about the Rules that really confounded me was how the authors said you had to keep playing the Rules even after you were in a serious R or married!!!!! :laugh:
moman Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 These people writing the rules are serial daters, just out to sleep with the opposite sex and get some kind of canny satisfaction of feeling like they are in control of something. Everyone I know in a long-term relationship (married +10 years) didn't play games like cat and mouse.
monkey00 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 These people writing the rules are serial daters, just out to sleep with the opposite sex and get some kind of canny satisfaction of feeling like they are in control of something. Everyone I know in a long-term relationship (married +10 years) didn't play games like cat and mouse. Exactly, where they succeed the book fails. I'd like to see someone capitalize on a book about maintaining relationships and marriages and keeping things interesting (there might be one out there I don't know). But it seems these 'rule' books are targeting a specific audience of people who don't have much dating experience...which seemingly is large portion of the population.
Cherry Blossom 35 Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Yeah, Monkey, I would like to read that book.
MN randomguy Posted April 14, 2009 Posted April 14, 2009 Remember that website that was in joke emails about 10 years ago? It promises to test your I.Q., you create a log in and start answering questions. Its timed so you answer questions as fast as you can. Then, they start repeating. It goes on indefinitely and after you give-up it send you an I.Q. score that is inversely proportional to the amount of time you wasted futilely answering questions. That's what I was reminded of when I read the list of "Rules" It sounds like "The Rules" are for "Games" They sound retarded. They're for women who just want attention from cute boys. I'd kick any woman who played by "The Rules" to the curb in short time. You're supposed to keep playing? Does this mean that you never get to know what she's really like? And that she'll keep trying to reel you in? It sounds like a power struggle instead of developing real intimacy. After a month or less of trying to win "The Game" I'd give up realizing it is futile. The more experienced at dating a guy is, the quicker he'll dump you.
Author Scorpio13c Posted April 15, 2009 Author Posted April 15, 2009 Why, do you think someone is playing games with you? Yep I do, Pm me D-lish when tou have a chance. Scorp
Sephirothh Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 The absolute biggest failure of a book ever made that is so pro-women they might as well compare men to cr@p on the bottom of every persons shoe. I always thought women had to eat and drink water to survive like we did, never knew women were so immortal and better than men that we basically have to do everything. Contradiction is everywhere in this book and any girl that buys or follows this book will never find anyone, men aren't as dumb and clueless as this book appears us to be. The fact of the matter is all these women that play by these rules are FAKE and you never get to know the real them, you never know who they really are.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 I find it deliciously ironic that during the peak of this book series' popularity, one of the authors of the book had her husband walk out on her and divorce her after 16 years. Guess he got tired of the rules.
Woggle Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 Not playing emotional games and not being a big ball of drama is actually the best way for a woman to find a succesful relationship. Rational women with their head screwed on straight are a rare gem and they can have the cream of the crop when it comes to men. These rule books just attract men who have no respect for themselves and what woman wants that.
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