too clingy in a relationship?

[lilimak3]

well from the beginning of our relationship, he was a "clingy." like he always online so he can talk to me or call me whenever im not online. but i got use to it and it seems like i became clingy myself!! i think? cuz now when im online, im like waiting for him to get online or i call him to see where he's at and its really bugging me alot to not talk to him recently. since theres complications right now, and the economy is one of the reason why, we dont talk as much anymore but we still do. and the thing is we still love each other alot, its just theres so many problems like family stuff, economy, school. its just so many things going on. wat should i do to take my mind off things? or to not be clingy?? i just love him so much i cant take him off my mind.

 

thanks in advance!!

[btc8]

It seems like you got used to his clingy-ness, subconsciously, at least, over time, and when he began to habituate to the relationship, you found that he wasn't as attentive to you anymore, even though you clearly had an issue with his overzealous behavior at the beginning. I think this is a normal response given how the roles have reversed. My advice to you is to just remember that being co-dependent is not a good thing. Dependency to a limited extent is okay, but to the point where it controls you is another.

 

Focus now on doing the things that you enjoy doing when he's not around. Maintain your independency; focus on work or hobbies or work out. I know it's probably not the response you want to hear, but it is the easiest and most sensible and psychologically healthy explanation I can provide you.

[SoulSearch_CO]

I was going to throw the co-dependent word out there. It's not healthy, nor is it sexy. Go find things to do with your time. Find a new hobby. Something that'll keep your hands and mind busy, preferably, so you can't chat on the phone at the same time (being tempted to call him).