fallendisguise Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 Can someone please, please, please, explain what that means..? I'll be the first to admit that I might me one beer short of a six pack in the relationship department. My last "relationship" was a four year long FWB.. so I don't exactly pick up on subtle hints all that well when it comes to this. LOL. Here's the scoop.. I've been seeing this guy for the last 4 1/2 months. We're intimate and sleep over. Our schedules are a bit different so we only see each other about twice a week. The other night we went out and we were up really late (about an hour before I had to get up for work..that stunk by the way LOL). Earlier in the night I had asked if he was going to stay, because a drunk guy friend who was in my neighborhood wanted to know if he could crash on my couch (purely innocent, JUST a friend)..immediately I regretted asking that question because I felt that it was the wrong thing to do even though I only think of the guy friend as a friend. Well later on, just before falling asleep he said that it would have upset him if the guy friend had stayed over. He then told me that he hasn't slept with anyone else since meeting me. (I was in shock, but pleasantly surprised by this info..I hadn't either). I then asked him why... to lure more details out of him..(I was trying to find out where we stood). So he then said that if he had he would feel guilty. I asked him why, but for the life of me can't remember the answer. I think I fell asleep from exhaustion. So last night we were texting and I jokingly brought it up and he had NO CLUE what I was talking about. He said he didn't remember saying the guilty thing. I immediately felt foolish for assuming that maybe he had been saying he wanted to be exclusive, so I changed the subject. I'm not sure if he doesn't remember the whole conversation or just the guilty thing. Regardless, he said it.... so what does that mean? I'm sure this is probably pretty black and white, but like I said I'm clueless about this stuff and I am TERRIFIED that I'm going to end up in another FWB situation. Oh yeah, when we first started hanging out he said that he didn't want to be tied down to anyone or have anything serious.. so that makes me wonder what this could mean even more. I don't want to be too hopeful. If that's the case, why stick around this long, get upset if another guy crashed on my couch, and not sleep with anyone else??? We're in our mid 20s by the way... Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Author fallendisguise Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 I should add, that he's never really had a "real" relationship. When I've asked, it's been more along the lines of him assuming that he's with someone because they do a lot together. He's a bit of a late bloomer and didn't date until after college. He said that was because he was focused on what he wanted to make out of his life and didn't feel it was fair to string anyone along while doing so.
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