lonelypiscesguy Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 OK, I tried to sound all tough and say I was done with her, but I started missing her all over again last night. I believe she misses me as much as I miss her (maybe not AS much) and I am still holding out hope that if I give her enough space (but not too much for her to totally lose interest) she will call and we can talk about us. As much as she has driven me up a wall and I have driven her up the same wall, I still love her and miss her. IF, and that's a pretty big if at this point, if she wants to try again, how can I rekindle the magic? Can it be rekindled? I really do see us being friends if she decides she doesn't want to give it another go, but I can;t just be friends with her just yet, for obvious reasons. I mean, even in a strong relationship, the magic and the passion wanes after a while, but could I reestablish the spark again? Ladies, what have the men in your life done to make you feel special and loved after a break-up and reconciliation? And please don't tell me to just move on, even if I should. I spoke with her 4 days ago, she called to thank me after I sent her a DVD and a couple other little things, along with a card expressing my love and regret for being a cad and instigating the break-up. She was sweet as usual and wanted to talk but I was exhausted after working all night I thought it best to keep it short anyway. Any thoughts? Thanks again, as always, and I'm sorry to keep droning on about her but I miss her terribly.
Sonic_chaos Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 for me, you need to get the attractiveness back you had when you first started dating her for her to start that "Spark" again. So its essential that you let her go as much as you can to get that confidence and get up and go you once had. I know my ex girlfriend used to love my Arms and shoulders. So guess what?? Im working on them abit more so when i do go and see her, i hoping she will think, wow there just as good as they was last time i saw them. lol I guess im sounding vain... In fac completley opposite. I lack alot of self confidence. But its coming back. And i hope that the attractiveness will also come back with it too which will make the magic work just that bit better. I used to think why do everyone say No contact. But i having read a few books/ebooks etc.. It makes sence and it does work. my ex lasted a week before she broke and sms me.
Author lonelypiscesguy Posted April 14, 2009 Author Posted April 14, 2009 Thanks Sonic. I haven't been very good about NC, I admit, but when I have talked to her, she is still really cool. I'm going thru "I miss her and need her" to "To hell with her". Confusing stuff this dating, no?
Sonic_chaos Posted April 15, 2009 Posted April 15, 2009 No worries Its even more confusing when you think you know the person and then out the blue these sorta things happens.. i can only try and give you some advice on how im coping with it and been told by various sources. You will deffo have your up and down days man. I had a few low days since posting but im on the up again, its just like getting it out of your system!
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