Is he just 'not that into me'?

[pokerface]

I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. In the beginning, i didnt like him, but after a few great dates i gave it a real shot and have been in love since! He on the other hand, has been the same since the beginning. He doesnt express much emotionally and that is something i really need in a relationship. Becuase of this, i am coming off needy (calling him most of the time, asking him if he loves me, etc)

 

Am i just passing up him as being unemotional as not even being into me at all! We have talked about me taking a job somewhere else, and he said he would be sad and would have to think about the move. I on the other hand would move with him in a heartbeat. I also am ready to move in and he said he wasnt...its just things like this are are making me start to really THINK.

 

Any advice??

[single ape]

I think you might be right with the "unemotional" part. People have to date people who want the same level of intensity, to use a lame word for it. What he's giving might just be what he's got to give.. and you need more. You could also say that he needs less, someone that's cool with the love-lite. unfortunately as time goes on,.. these things tend to get worse.. not better.

 

easter!

[Island Girl]

I think you might be right with the "unemotional" part. People have to date people who want the same level of intensity, to use a lame word for it. What he's giving might just be what he's got to give.. and you need more. You could also say that he needs less, someone that's cool with the love-lite. unfortunately as time goes on,.. these things tend to get worse.. not better.

 

easter!

 

I second the above.

 

You must either learn to live with the apathy and not many expressions of love or caring or break it off and find someone who is more expressive and has a greater capacity of feeling.

 

The longer you stay with him the less you'll hear the "I love you"s, etc.

Can you settle with that?