yanx84 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 If a girl cancels a second date on a guy due to scheduling issues, should it be her responsibility to call the guy back to arrange the date? I know she's into me and I know she said she wants to take things slow, but how much of the initiative should the guy be taking at this point? So far I feel like I've been taking all of it..
loser101 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 it's up to you but I think the person that cancels is the one that should reschedule. it's only polite
Author yanx84 Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 yeah well she text me saying "hey i'm really sorry but tomorrow is not going to work. let me know what your plans are tonight and maybe we can meet up". So I told her I was meeting up with my friends for drinks. Does that count as her rescheduling?
loser101 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 sure. especially as she asked to see you at such short notice, rather than put it off for ages or make some vague promise. sounds like she had some genuine reasons to cancel but wanted to see you as soon as possible. in my opinion it's your turn to suggest a night that's suitable for you.
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 She is less than 50% interested, if that much - taking things slow = holding out for other options in this case. Hanging out or meeting up is not a date. I'd move on.
mark982 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 it does to me,but it was great to see that you stuck to your original plans ,instead of dropping everything and running after her.
loser101 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 She is less than 50% interested, if that much - taking things slow = holding out for other options in this case. Hanging out or meeting up is not a date. I'd move on. nah, it's too soon to decide on that. it's only a second date. I'd say OP ignore this advice, give the girl a chance
Author yanx84 Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 yeah well after I told her my plans she never even responded back soo.. I called her before I was heading out that night just to see if she wanted to meet up and no answer. We've kissed and held hands so far but she seems to do these kinds of things a lot. Plus I think she just got out of a relationship and she got a DUI a few weeks ago. I'm beginning to grow tired of the chase.
loser101 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 yeah well after I told her my plans she never even responded back soo.. I called her before I was heading out that night just to see if she wanted to meet up and no answer. We've kissed and held hands so far but she seems to do these kinds of things a lot. Plus I think she just got out of a relationship and she got a DUI a few weeks ago. I'm beginning to grow tired of the chase. ok well you should leave it then. if someone had texted me that he was going out with his mates, I would assume that meeting up that night was out of the question. however, you called her and she should have returned the call. I think you should leave it and just see what happens with the chance that you may not hear from her
LucreziaBorgia Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 I'm beginning to grow tired of the chase. That's the thing about the chase. If a girl wants you, she'll run just fast enough for you to catch her. If she isn't, or she is playing the field, then she does things like blow you off, cancel dates, doesn't return calls, etc. A girl who wants to be chased also wants to be caught, so she'll stay ahead of you but will always make sure that you are not far behind. This one doesn't sound like it matters much to her whether you are chasing or not. I am definitely a cynic here, but I am also very, very familiar with the game and how it is played.
Quos Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Sometimes things actually come up at the last minute. I think LucreziaBorgia is jumping the gun a little by declaring she's not interested because of one time. Give her another shot. It was dumb of her to ask you to see her on the same night, but expecting an instant reply when you tell her you're busy is also a little dumb. I'd give it a day or two (in either of your positions) and then try to arrange another date.
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