Happy comments

[Lovin a scrapper]

I have been here only a short time and sometime i would love to see some posts about happy times in LDR'S.

 

Thats not too much to ask is it?

[Tony T]

It is my personal opinion that there are no such things as LDRs. Those relationships take place inside your head, absent an actual human being to have interaction with. That can't possibly be a very happy situation for anybody. Then again, happiness is created in the mind as well...so whatever happiness someone miles away can bring must be brought in the mind of the person looking for happiness in an otherwise brutal and lonely situation.

 

It is also my personal opinion that, except in situations where once close lovers are separated geographically for some reason, people engage in LDR's because of a fear of intimacy or other fear(s) related to a close intimate relationship. For someone who has phobias about relationships, an LDR...especially one started on the Internet...is a viable alternative.

 

It baffles me how people treat these things with people they have never even met. Of course, there are many things about relationships that baffle me. Exactly what kind of satisfaction can be derived by having a fling with somebody who is miles away and never around. That doesn't sound like anything mother nature would endorse.

[Island Girl]

There are plenty here at the moment.

 

A couple of LDR weddings are happening shortly. YAY!!

 

I'm sure those LS posters will pop here and share soon...Rollercoasterr...BearandSue...?

 

I am in a happy LDR.

We aren't happy about the distance or the time spent apart but we are happy we have found each other and have developed an extremely close bond with each other.

 

Blissful moments are anytime we can be talking - that certainly elevates that "happy" feeling.

But I am just as happy to get to speak with him and we disagree - I'd rather be fighting with him by phone than having a pleasant conversation with anyone else face to face.

 

And so we continue to work towards his re admittance into the US as a permanent resident.

More paperwork has been requested and that should be the end of the wait...

 

I simply ADORE him :love:

 

Knowing love and feeling love is wonderful. Even better when you know it is reciprocal. :love:

[cybersister]

I am happy in mine. we started a year in the same town - been long distance nearly 4 years now.

just found out I will get to spend next weekend with him- was not expecting to see him til the end of the month so am really happy. I used to hate the times we were apart but have come to get used to looking forward to our times together.

we did start out planning a future together. I do not know if that will ever happen, but there is no other man for me. I am just so happy when I think of him, and in heaven when we are together.

[Rollercoasterr]

I am so fantastically happy in my LDR that I crap rainbows. I love my fiance more than anything I've ever felt in my entire life. I don't agree that people usually have relationship issues so they get into LDRs. Maybe some, but from the people I have met here, I can see that were a happy bunch of people with normal relationship problems. Sure, we miss our other halves, but when we're reunited again its something of grand splendor. I've been in many relationships in the past, and this is my first LDR. My past relationships haven't been out of the ordinary, or riddled with problems(except maybe that my ex is now living with a guy, who knew)so I don't know about that.

 

We are, in fact, getting married next June and we just can't wait to spend forever and ever together. I just really hope that everyone feels the same kind of love in their relationship that I do in mine.

[Rollercoasterr]

Oh, and did I neglect to mention that we met online? I think I did.

[Bearandsue]

I am very happy in my LDR. No I don't think I have any relationship or intimacy issues. I just happen to fall in love with a guy who lives in another country. We did meet online too. Big whoop.

 

 

This is the best relationship I have been in. He is the most amazing guy and we have been together for 2 years. Its hard work but the alternative is not having each other so we make it work. We talk everyday and look forward to times when we can see each other.

 

Now we are getting married this June. How can I not be happy!

[Els]

Of course I'd be happier if he was here. Duh.

 

But I'm still happier now than I would be with someone else who WAS here. There's absolutely noone else I know whom I'd rather be with even if they were right in front of me, and I know many, many guys.

 

It's not a fling, of course. LDR and 'fling' is the antithesis, much like 'love' and 'obsession'. Never can the two work together.

 

I believe that noone would choose to be in an LDR if they could be in an ITR with the SAME person, but like bearandsue, IG and many others have said... 'the alternative is not having each other so we make it work'.

[KikiW]

I met my LDR online. Talked through a headset for a couple of months and got to know each other. Exchanged photos, talked some more. Realized there was something going on with both of us, we couldn't get enough of each other.

 

All the while I protected myself. I told myself it was a fantasy, that people do not meet this way, it's just the excitement of the moment. I told myself if we met it would all fall apart, that there would be too many obstacles to try and overcome.

 

But my LDR was patient. He knew I had been so hurt, so shattered in the past that my inner self was too afraid to come out. He would catch glimpses before I would re-brick my wall. That in itself scared me - that even if the walls came down he would not like my true self and leave me.

 

But he promised that he would do anything he needed to in order for me to truly understand that I could trust him. Slowly I peeled back my layers. Sometimes it was one step forward, two back, but eventually I realized he was the real deal.

 

And then we made plans to meet. And I freaked the hell out wondering if the online chemistry was real or if it would all fall flat. But after two very close, important people encouraged me to go for it, I did, and it was one of the most incredible weekends of my life.

 

Since that weekend last October, I have discovered a new world. I am just now realizing the kind of person I have the potential to become - at 35 years old - and the majority of it is because I met my LDR.

 

There are things holding us back from being together permanently, but we are working on them. We can't rush it, despite how insane it drives us to be apart from each other. I think it also helps us to grow closer. It helps us to communicate better. It helps us to prepare for when we WILL finally be together.

 

So Tony T, with all due respect and with my tongue planted firmly in my cheek, you can suck it.

[Lovin a scrapper]

Now this is what I love to hear. Great comments so far. Well except one who apparently knows not what he speaks.