Zeland55 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 I have been best friends with this girl for over four years. She means so much to me and is one of the best friends I have ever made. About a month ago my best friend (19, girl) drunk texted me. She ended up confessing all her feelings to me (19,guy) via text messages. She told me she really liked me and how shes felt this way for a little while. She had a boyfriend at this time, but recently broke up with him. I really want something to happen with her because I have strong feelings for her, but I would never say anything because I am unsure if she feels the same way. I also don't want to ruin our friendship if things get weird. She is talking to some other guy at the moment so I'm not really getting my hopes up. Is there any truth to the drunk texting or should I just try my hardest to ignore it and pretend like it never happened? Theres nothing more I'd like than to be with this girl, but I just don't know if I can risk the friendship if she really doesnt feel the same way. Thanks for any help I can get!
samspade Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 She is probably a little freaked out that she confessed those things to you drunkenly, so you might be better off not bringing them up. However, I think there IS something to them. And look at the situation you're in: You know she likes you. People say crazy things all the time when they're drunk, but confessing your feelings usually comes from somewhere meaningful. If I were you, I would play it a little cool, but amp up the flirtation with her. At the same time, pull back on the friendship dynamic. It might even help you to take out some other girls. It will take your mind off of her, and she'll see you as much more of a romantic possibility. I'd say you're in a pretty good spot. You're playing with house money.
Author Zeland55 Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 I also forgot to mention that I slightly brought it up to her the next day. I asked how her drunk she got and she told me she got pretty drunk. I asked her if she sent any random texts while she was drunk. She said No, she couldn't find her phone all night. Im not sure if she is using this as an excuse OR someone else got a hold of her phone and was messing with me.
normal Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 I also forgot to mention that I slightly brought it up to her the next day. I asked how her drunk she got and she told me she got pretty drunk. I asked her if she sent any random texts while she was drunk. She said No, she couldn't find her phone all night. Im not sure if she is using this as an excuse OR someone else got a hold of her phone and was messing with me. Probably not the best way to address the situation. She probably felt pretty awkward about it.
Author Zeland55 Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 What makes me doubtful about the whole thing is that she seems to be really interested in a new guy. She said things are getting pretty serious and shes going to start dating him soon. One thing that happened a few years ago was that I told her that I liked her. She had a BF and it was an extremely awkward situation. She just took it and went on with her life and ignored it. In one of the texts she sent she said "Ever since you told me you liked me I had feelings for you". I really really wanted to figure it out so I asked her straight up(this was 2 weeks later and I was really anxious) and she said once again "No, I didnt text you. I couldn't find my phone all night. I didnt find it until later on the next day." I felt like a fool and said well I said that 2 years ago and kind of made her assume those feelings I had for her died a long time ago. So I think maybe she might think I dont even like her anymore and shes moving on with this other guy. I really have no clue. I want to tell her how I feel so much, but Im afraid to look stupid and risk our friendship if she still says she didn't say anything and doesnt feel the same way. I should have included all this in my first post.
single ape Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 dude.. get off the internet and go for it.. she just threw you a lob and you're making every excuse in the world why it's not going to happen. YOu don't know unless you try... and as long as you're polite about it and except any answer she gives you.. you wont ruin the friendship.. k? So put the shoes on, call her up .. and buy that girl a slurpee.
7117 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 I totally agree with ape on this one she was probably was scared of what you would say about her confessing her feelings.You have to give it a shot.I was in the same situation with my best girl friend a couple years back she got drunk we made out and the next day I brought it up and she just changed the subject.We were such good friends I didnt want to lose that so I let it go.Long story short it's 3 years later she is getting married in a couple months and I still think she is the perfect person for me but I never acted on it.All our other friends know that we are perfect for one another but she is getting married and if she is happy so am I.Anyway tell her how you feel life is short good luck.
Author Zeland55 Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 Well I brought it up and pretty much got shut down. She was telling me how she had people over and was telling them some stuff about me. Seems like it was people messing with me on her phone. It sucks that it wasnt HER true feelings...I guess i will just have to try to let it go. This sucks
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