candiman Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 My ex girlfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago. I did everything I could for 3 weeks to try to get her back until I realized there was no way of doing that. She did say that she wasn't in love anymore so after hearing that I stopped trying. It broke my heart in pieces but I realized I was doing more harm to myself and now need to start looking out for myself. I've gone a week without talking to her, but in that week she has texted me a dumb question, called my friend to ask another dumb question and texted me "morning pop tart" at 5:48 in the morning. Why? Why is she trying to contact me if she knows how much she's hurting me by doing it?
Excellent Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Basically, yeah. You gave her attention while you were together. Now that it has ended, she doesn't want you, but she still would like the attention, preferably with a lot of sugar on top. If you give her attention, it justifies the breakup to her, helping her move on and heal faster than you. Texts like that are just screams of attention-seeking, and would end in trying to string you along if you reply. In addition to that, it makes you look weak and pushes her further away, whilst giving her an ego-boost. In my case, that gave me even bigger heartache. Because when she got the attention she wanted, she thought:"Hey! He still likes me, he's not mad, i was right to break up with him. I can treat him how i want, because he never gets mad at me". Meaning giving me the cold shoulder whenever i tried to ask her out. But acting all sweet and friendly when she wanted me to come running for a little ego-boosting. I went NC after 2 months of that crap. It helps.
Author candiman Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 Ugh... Every time she texts me it kinda gives me an ego boost, but after a while it tears me apart. I really did love her and I really do think she did as well. I did everything she wanted and I think that was the problem. That's why she fell out of love... at least I think. Even though she broke up with me I still want her back, but I don't know if I would take her back now.
loser101 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 it takes a while to wean yourself off someone. for both sides
mark982 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 can you block from recieving her texts?never gonna heal till you go nc.
arlene619 Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 It's obvious she wants the attention. I'm a female and I used to do the same thing. I know how hard it is. Just make sure you stop all contact with her, unless you still want to be with her... If you don't respond to her texts she will eventually start calling you. If she broke up with you then she doesn't want to be with you. I'm sorry to sound so harsh.. But I think she's regretting that decision now that you have seemed to move on with your life. Remember, it's her loss, not yours..
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