I'm going to go see a therapist but I was wondering...

[smile_through_tears]

How do you prepare for a therapy session?? Also this is offered for free from my college, i Just found that out so thought why not give it a shot?

 

 

My problem is that even after so long I still cant stop thinking about my ex, dont really know how to get my happiness and self-esteem back without him. I go through all kinds of feelings. I still miss him and have a hard time thinking that there is no future for me and him and also wondering how he is doing, what was he thinking when I was crying SO MUCH after our break-up for months? what does he think about me? etc...

 

Ultimately I am having a hard time letting go of this whole thing, the anger, the sadness and confusion...this break-up has drained me...I need to let it go in order for me to be okay but I just dont know how to do that!! So Im going to go see a therapist from my school for the issues with my ex and for issues that lie within me...im not sure how to go about it though because i have never seen a therapist and in my "world" or group of people im around i guess, they dont go to therapy, or would probably think weird of me going there...but IM DOING THIS FOR ME!!! to help myself not just about the break-up but to understand myself better and to improve my life!!!!! How do I prepare for a therapy session????

[silverfish]

You don't really need to prepare. Just know what you want to get out of it and you already know that.

It's important to be honest with yourself and not expect to get 'answers'.

Sometimes you get given tasks to help you move forward - make sure you give them a go.

Oh, and you'll probably cry a lot - it feels surprisingly good to let it out in front of a complete stranger. It probably won't take much to get you moving on up - good luck!

[Bluebird In My Heart]

When I went to one, he had me fill out paperwork just so he could have a general idea of what he was dealing with, any medical things that may need to be reckoned with, ect.

 

Not anything big at all. Nothing more complicated than I would have to do if I was a new patient at a doctor's office or similar.

 

I suppose it would depend on the therapist, and their process on what you would have to do.

 

Therapy will a good therapist is life-changing in wonderful ways during hard times. You're doing a loving thing for you by going, and sound very motivated to get well.

 

No need to be anxious. I have a feeling you'll come out of this just fine!

 

Best of luck to you.

[lovelinefan]

Prepare to answer hard questions, and do real work - or else therapy will not help you. You can expect to ease into it, spill your guts for a few sessions, and build a rapport with the therapist. They will probably help you give your feelings a context and a structure, and try and talk you through processing some of it.

 

The better you are at self reflection and honesty with yourself, the more you will get from it.

[sotired]

I would make a list of things you have issues with and bring them up during the session. Maybe even print out your post and read it to the therapist.

 

Therapy is usually very relaxed and not intimidating. Hope it all works out for you!

[smile_through_tears]

That seems to be the problem. I feel so many emotions...at times they even contradict each other such as I can feel too emotionless at times and sometimes emotionless...But I know that my feelings of sadness relate to one thing: the fact that I lost my ex boyfriend. <-- That has brought alot of feelings in me. Even jealousy towards my friend who is about to get married and my two other friends who tell me things that their boyfriends tell them...In a way it makes me feel unlucky and unlovable, because what about me was so wrong that my ex stopped loving me? I understand other people's lives have nothing to do with me but sometimes its hard to not relate. As I said that is just one of millions of feelings that I have..it's a cycle of anger, sadness, confusion, wonderings and what if's, questions of why's and how's and I'm not getting anywhere. It is only hurting ME. He is not dealing with this, I AM!! So why am I doing this to myself?? And yet I cant seem to know how to stop it. Also when he would try to contact me, he would be cold and distant. In order to maintain my dignity (after I already lost it by beggin for months) I would act the same as him..this went on untill a month ago. Yet this also hurt me because i HATED being so ditant with him and having to pretend I was okay. I am emotionally F-ED UP!

 

But are college therapists good at helping you out?? For some reason I feel like a college therapist would get "tired" of dealing with me...As I said I never went to one so I have no idea how this thing goes. :love: