silverstar189 Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 As above, I've recently met a nice girl that I have a good feeling about. She's very nice, I get on really great with her, she's good looking etc etc. I work part time in a bar with her and we've spent a while flirting round the ice machine etc. I made a move and over the last week or two we've been seeing each other at every opportunity, texting etc. She's great. I have no problems kissing her, but just don't think about sleeping with her...which as a guy is wierd. Its not that she's not attractive, just it doesn't really cross my mind. The other night we went for dinner and had a really great night, but when it came to the end she got a quick kiss and put in a taxi its kind of like I'd feel a bit cheap making a move, and part because I just feel uncomfortable with sleeping with her. Maybe its because we've started off as colleagues that the whole ideas a bit strange. Its not like I'm incapable or anything. I quite like her, this has got real potential, but I'm starting to think that at some point she's going to wonder if there's something wrong with me. It sounds sad, but at the moment I'd rather invite her back to watch a movie and snuggle up on the sofa. She's sweet, showing her the monster seems a bit wrong. What's wrong with me!!
bananacake Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Ive got the same problem, except that it is with my girlfriend that ive been with for over 4 years. =( Maybe she is just not the type you'd see yourself having a sexual relationship with? I know several beutiful girls that id be uncomfortable sleeping with just "because". Id try to sleep with her though. If it works out, great. If it doesnt, i wouldnt bet on the relationship. Sooner or later, everyone needs it.
Author silverstar189 Posted April 11, 2009 Author Posted April 11, 2009 Reading my own post, maybe I'm just scared of 'intimacy'. I guess I've always just dived straight in so I've never had this issue before. This girl is one of those ones that doesn't come round often though. I get what you say about good looking friends. I met someone on a dating site ages ago who I became best of friends with but I'd rather cut my tounge out than sleep withan and she's a fairly attractive woman
yongyong Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 well she works at the bar. whether she has innocent face or not, if you don't sleep with her, somebody will give her the pleasure. why do you think she would date a Man who is pussy on the bed? she might hang out with you but she might go to someone for pleasure
alphamale Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 It sounds sad, but at the moment I'd rather invite her back to watch a movie and snuggle up on the sofa. wanting to be with her but waiting for sex means you really really like her, just relax and wait until you're both ready. waiting will just make it better. She's sweet, showing her the monster seems a bit wrong. What's wrong with me!! "the monster", wtf?!?
spookie Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 It sounds like you really like her. If you wait, maybe you'll be able to have the kind of sex I always fantasize about, but have never actually experienced: where it's an emotional act of getting as close as you can to someone, rather than a physical one. I don't think what you're describing is a "problem". Just relax. =)
clv0116 Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Oh don't worry, if you don't do it someone else will.
Trialbyfire Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 It sounds like you really like her. If you wait, maybe you'll be able to have the kind of sex I always fantasize about, but have never actually experienced: where it's an emotional act of getting as close as you can to someone, rather than a physical one. I don't think what you're describing is a "problem". Just relax. =) spookie, it's incomparable. When you have all your emotional ports wide open, nothing beats it and the more you get it, the more you want it!
spookie Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 spookie, it's incomparable. When you have all your emotional ports wide open, nothing beats it and the more you get it, the more you want it! If my fantasies are anything like the real thing, I bet it is. =)
Isolde Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 If my fantasies are anything like the real thing, I bet it is. =) Yeah, I second everything you said. OP, don't let her get away yet. Give this a bit more time.
westernxer Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 She's sweet, showing her the monster seems a bit wrong! In the spirit of Easter, think of the monster as her savior.
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