My stupid inability to tell her how I feel

[UK Dan]

Hello, this is my first post and I'm just looking for some opinions.

 

Three years ago I made friends with a girl who over time has become a very important part of my life.

 

We built a superb solid friendship and did loads of stuff together, ie went on days out together, went for dinners together and pretty much had a relationship without making it official. After a while I realised she wanted to be more than a friend but I didn't feel anything more for her.

 

That changed toward the end of last year, all the lights started to switch on and I started to get feelings for her but I'm not the best at telling people how I feel and kept suppressing it. She started to realise that I was starting to grow more fond of her, I put a lot of thought into Christmas and got her some nice presents.

 

Earlier this year she started the process to move out of her parents and buy her own place, and I've since found out that at the same time she started to try to unattach herself from me. Basically at the same time as my feelings were getting stronger and stronger, she started to resist her own toward me.

 

Before she moved into her flat I told her that my feelings had changed but she said I'd had my chances to take things further and she'd got fed up of waiting and concentrated on getting her flat.

 

I gave it a week to sort my head out and then phoned her and told her exactly how I felt about her, basically I laid all 52 cards on the table!!!! She said she didn't know what to do, I said I wouldn't bug or badger her for an answer and I'd let her think about it.

 

Two weeks have passed, she's moved in to her place, although she's quite unsettled there at the moment and misses home. We still talk, when I see her at work (we work at the same place) everything is fine, we chat and laugh, she doesn't initiate texts or calls but always responds to ones that I send, no, I don't bombard her everyday with them!!! She invited me to her new place on thursday to show it off and to have a chinese take out, which I paid for. We had a nice evening and just talked normally but not about us.

 

I've not mentioned anything else about what I said a couple of weeks ago, I don't really know how or whether to broach the subject again, one of my friends says that she is probably waiting for me to do this, hence why she's not texting first etc. Would I be right to do this?. I've made a plan of action about what to do to try and win her heart again, I'm going to just be myself and be relaxed around her, be nice to her and show her that I really care about her. I've got her a personalised Easter Egg which I want to give her tomorrow at work, is this a good thing to do?

 

I love this girl, I want to and would do anything to be with her. Any help would be greatly appriciated.

 

Thanks

 

Dan

[Excellent]

I think you should continue what you are doing. And throw in little things that show you care for her, and perhaps it will eventually lead to something. She isn't brushing you off, so thats a good sign atleast. Good luck.

[stephy]

She is probably being gun shy if she has told you twice she had feelings for you and both times you shot her down.She is probably confused as to why all of a sudden you want her now and didnt back then.Keep doing what you are doing but do not go overboard.She probably is tryign to figure out if you really mean it or was just saying that.