music4me Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Ok I wrote about a week and a half ago that I went out with a guy (and his friend who was in town visiting, this is the first time we met) two weeks ago. We both had a great time! Friday night was great, so he asked me if I would hang out with him all day Saturday (friend came too). I texted him on Saturday night thanking him for everything. He said that we should do dinner and a movie when he gets back and I said that sounds great! That Sunday he texted me when he was at the airport saying he had a lot of fun. He was going out of town for 2 weeks. He told me that he would call me. Well its been two weeks and he just home today and I haven't heard from him! I texted him on Thursday over a week ago just casually asking him how his job training is going and such, and we texted for a bit. I didn't want to over-text him or anything because we aren't exclusive. I have not heard from him since. Am I expecting too much to soon? I don't know... I thought he would have called like he said he would... or at least texted while he was away if he was interested. If he wasn't interested, why the heck would he have asked me to do dinner and a movie and then not talk to me? Am I overreacting? Should I just forget him?
stepka Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 sorry music, that is just one of those situations we've all been thru in our lives, and no one knows the answer. I wish I could help, but it's impossible to know what's going on--he could still be interested but has lots of stuff to take care of b/c he's been out of town for awhile--that sounds like the most likely possibility.
Jambalaya Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 Well its been two weeks and he just home today and I haven't heard from him! I texted him on Thursday over a week ago just casually asking him how his job training is going and such, and we texted for a bit. I didn't want to over-text him or anything because we aren't exclusive. I have not heard from him since. If he's been away for two weeks and only back today, give him a few days to wash his clothes, catch up with friends, sleep etc. Then find out.
Author music4me Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 I forgot that this is Easter weekend, so he might have gone home as well...?? Seriously though, I just don't understand why he couldn't at least text and say hey, hows it going. It would have just been nice, especialyl since he said he'd call me while he was away! Do guys not think about things like that?
pinkberry Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 I forgot that this is Easter weekend, so he might have gone home as well...?? Seriously though, I just don't understand why he couldn't at least text and say hey, hows it going. It would have just been nice, especialyl since he said he'd call me while he was away! Do guys not think about things like that? After reading "He's Just Not That Into You", and from talking extensively about the subject with friends, guys and girls, if a guy is 100% into you, he will put his money where his mouth is, aka if he is crazy about you or at least very interested, he will call or text to let you know that. My guess is that this guy is interested, but maybe not as interested as you initially thought. Therefore, that's why he's not eager to call or text. You're probably still on his mind, but more as a "when I get around to it" kind of thing. This is just my opinion though, so I don't know - is there any male input here?
single ape Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 I have some guy input, you're all reading into it too much. Two weeks to most guys means.. "sometime between two weeks and two months.." I know that sucks when you are waiting.. but that's the way it goes. Like a pot of heating water.. the less you stare at that phone, the faster it is going to ring. There are some forces in the universe that you can't really explain, like a woman's ability to sense a man getting action, and a man's ability to know somewhere inside how anxious you are about that call. Guys tend to scare away from the anxious ones and chase the cool ones.. so try your best to distract yourself and be cool.. and you'll be doing your nerves and your love life a huge favor....pow!
sashatickles Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 I agree with Ape, Guys like a challenge. like mystery. Live your life and don't wait by the phone, time will go by faster and you will give him the time he needs to figure out what he wants. I am a little curious why the friend was with you guys. Sounds to me he needs space and time. Give it to him. Go out and have some fun, life is too short. There are a lot of men out there!
Author music4me Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 HIs friend was with because he was visiting that weekend from out of town.... this was planned long ago. and the guy really wanted to meet me before he went out of town. Thanks for the advice you all! I've been doing my best to keep my cool... I haven't made contact at all. he did text me happy easter today though and I answered! I like letting the guy chase me....
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