I_Heart_Penguins Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Ok, this may sound weird, especially to the guys out there... but my boyfriend and I have sex all the time, and I feel like it might start to take over our relationship. We both didn't have many partners before, and I personally never enjoyed or connected during sex with anyone before so this is all new to me. We're constantly all over each other, I feel like we have no self control.. we're now one of those couples I used to see in the mall and get all grossed out cause they're all touchy-feely but when I'm with him I don't even realize who's around. We've been going out for a year now, so could this be a phase? We still do fun things together, hang out, have dinner, play games, have long conversations etc But it always always leads to sex. Even when I told him we're going to have self control tonight, we're going to hang out and go home, thats it. We ended up coming back to my house. And its not only that, once we get started we can't stop, the most was about 7 "rounds" in one night! Sex stuff has been spilling over into everything we do, he's noticed that too. I really love him and do enjoy our nonesxual time together too, I don't want us to become just sex. I'm starting to get concerned! Could this be a problem? And How do we learn self control? (Just say no doesn't work, believe me lol)
xpaperxcutx Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 You only see it as a problem because you weren't a very sexual person before. Sex in a relationship is actually quite healthy and stimulating for the body, especially mind- blowing hormonal sex. I think you should enjoy every opportunity the both of you get to have, exploring different positions etc, because eventually sex will taper off to probably once or twice a week in the the future.
Lovelybird Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 One thing for sure, nobody here can control that for you couples should have deeper bond than just sex Maybe you two can date outdoor, some place with full of people, or some activities that use your energy (not sex), and these would nurture your friendship and bond
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