rachel62993 Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Okay, this is sorta a long story but i'll try to shorten it up. Me and this guy named "bob" were best friends for about three months. But one day we were at the mall with a bunch of friends and every one kept asking us if we were together and we kept saying no because at the moment neither one of us imagined being together, but stuff happened that day and we ended up getting together. It was very weird at first but after a few weeks, I got this crazy feeling I never felt before, I freaked out and broke up with him. We got right back together and were together for about a year and I was madly in love with him. He was my first love, and my only love. We have been broken up for about 6 months and we didn't talk for the first couple months but for the past 4 months, hes been calling me everyday, and flirting with me! but he says he doesn't want a relationship. It's been almost two years since we first got together and I'm still in love with him more than ever but hes playing mind games and I dont know what to do! He says that a reason we can't get back together right now is hes almost 19, and i'm almost 16, so we have to wait till im 16 to date so he can't get in trouble. Today he accidently said I love you while getting off the phone, I was in total shock. But I don't know...Do you think if he calls me everyday, he probably is going to get back with me in a couple months when I turn 16? He didn't treat me the best when we were together, but I think it's because hes not very emotionaly because hes had a very very very hard life with his family and doesn't trust anyone, so he keeps his feelings locked up and doesn't like to get close to anyone. I can't help it I fell in love with him! He dropped out of High School but plans on getting his GED. His mom absolutly loves me and doesn't care about the age difference. So i don't know! help please. I don't know what to do. I still cry every night and it's been 6 months! How can that be?
Ayla Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 We have all been 16 at one stage, and have had a first love. They really hard to get over, and because it is your first love most likely really hard to get over. But can i point out a few things to you? 1. You are only 16 - you have your full life ahead of you. Hang out with your friends, go to the mall, have coffee, concentrate on your schooling, go to the beach etc etc. Focus on your life. 2. He is 19, did not finish school and is hanging around younger kids. Odds are he is not mature enough to handle his own life. I would be questionning here - why was he hanging around people 3 years younger? What does he want to do with his life? 3 You could be together for a year, but then he breaks up with you cos it is illegal??? That is streange to me. Was the first year not illegal? What I think you should do is tell "Bob" to leave you alone. If he did not treat you well when you were together for a year, and is playing games with you now. Then given all the other stuff you have said - odds are things have not changed. Grab your girlfriends and just hang with them, talk with them. You really do have your whole life ahead of you, and there are plenty of nice blokes out there who will treat you like a princess when the time is right. Please try to focus on yourself and schooling. You will get through this.
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