Popstar Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now. Things have been great, we're such good buddies and we've never really had any fights (well, maybe over some minor, "laughable" things, like film/song facts and stuff...). We joke around a lot and enjoy just being silly together. I don't know what happened but it's been a while since we had sex - I guess it's been that long coz I can't remember when the last time was. I love sex, my drive has always been up - higher than his (and he knows this). We're not living together "technically" but I stay over almost always. I still get excited and enjoy the sight of him naked but I feel like I'm with a blind person when I walk around in nothing. I know he really loves me. He knows how I feel and has more than once told me that "we were really due for some sex..." This is the only thing that brings me down (here and there). I don't know what to do anymore. Any thoughts?
Untouchable_Fire Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Any thoughts? Yes, chuck his porn stash.
You'reasian Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 We guys appreciate it when we wake up to you ladies giving us BJs etc. Then its on!!!
bananacake Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Im in the same situation as you and i think i need to end it. When its been going on that long its easier said than done to change it. I want to have a normal sexlife, but i dont see that happening in this relationship. Thats just that =(
Trialbyfire Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 If walking around in nothing, isn't doing it for him, why not try something else? Cover up a bit, with something that tantalizes, rather than something that's in your face. Do the two of you have patterns of sexual behaviour? For example, same positions, same ways to approach sex? Patterns can create routines which can get stale. Shake it up a bit. Call him on the phone or through email and tantalize. Attack him sometimes. Show a little skin accidentally. Let him know you desire him in the most inappropriate situations and see where that leads...
Jambalaya Posted April 12, 2009 Posted April 12, 2009 Nakedness does not equal horniness, it just means being comfortable around the other person. Total lack of mystique. Unusual/smart/sexy outfits go a lot further. Take the bull by the horns so to speak - treat him like you did when you couldn't get enough of snogging and groping. Or to be a little more naughty - get yourself a vibrator, play with yourself in bed and invite him to join in. For some reason, people in relationships seem to either stop masturbating, or pretend they don't anymore. If he doesn't see you as a sexually charged person after that, or gets unhappy then rethink the strategy.
Enema Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Nakedness does not equal horniness, it just means being comfortable around the other person. Total lack of mystique. Unusual/smart/sexy outfits go a lot further. I agree with this. My wife walking around naked does very little for me. In other news... how do you look? Been together 4 years, are you in good shape?
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