Scorpian Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 New Year met a guy and it was instant infatuation, love, lust. So for the 3 months we were together (he's a musician) it was me revolving around him, his gigs, late nights, etc. We are in our early 40's, I have 2 young kids 12 and 6. Anyway, he is separated and was living at his mom's and I was his focus (emails, romance, roses, gifts). Well he got his own place and started this music project and the attention started diminishing. So I brought it up, he said not intentional, he's just busy. Well one weekend, he came over for booty call then left to do his busy stuff. So I was like "wait a minute", now he's pushing me aside. So I broke up with him over the phone. (Yeah I know bad call). Well, we met up in person to discuss us and he pretty much told me that we went too fast and now he doesn't want to get serious, etc. I feel sooo used because when he had nothing better to do while at his mom's, he wanted me so badly. Now that he is out and has a project, now he pretty much pushed me aside. Anyway, now I'm wondering about contacting him next week (1 month NC anniv). I don't know why but part of me would like to stay in contact with him. Maybe to hang out here and there. So should I? Part of me says why should I especially since he's not even divorced. Part of me says no, let him contact me if anything. So I'm asking for your advise.
kristine bagtas Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 what???? u mean his married!!! a big no no to a married guy...besides he's the one who pushed u out so dont go back again..move on and have ur own life....
gavinus Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Do not contact him!! big mistake! Be strong, you will meet somebody that will treat you well, remember you let other people treat you the way you want, you deserve better, contacting him will only show him you miss him and want him, he then gets all the power, stay NC, one day at a time, the feelings will pass
sugarmomma Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 I agree with the two previous posters totally. He will have absolutely no respect if you call first. Do NOT call him. You are doing good and he needs to regret what he has done. I would make myself busy when he does call (and he will) and not be able to talk. He sounds like a married loser. 91/2 times out of 10, there is no future in loving a married man. Sometimes they get divorced but most times they don't. Find someone new without all the issues.
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