contax Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 What's up? I left my girl of 5 years and 4 months because I suspected she was emotionally cheating on me with a particular guy. I called her back and asked if we can work it out because I'm always commited to. She said no. 3 days later shes fully in a relationship with that same guy. It's been 4 months since then. I went through anger, hurt, crying etc. Trying to learn. She called me out of the blue how she even regrets what she did cause that rebound isn't what was expected. I have had no contact with her for almost a month - because last time she called I hung up as soon as she said hi - I didn't recognize the number. These days sometimes I wake up and shes on my mind. I put all our photos away - I don't want to get rid of them for my history's sake, and cause we look good in them. However sometimes I deliberately think of her. She was really beautiful. I just want to move on, but I'm having a bit of a challenging time.
WhyYesThankYou Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Always hard to move on and think about other things, but it sounds like you're on the right track by putting the photos away and not being in contact with her. Also, you can give yourself a pat on the back because it sounds like your instincts are pretty sharp. There may well have been something going on between her and the new guy if she ended up getting with him so soon after breaking up with you. So you can move on knowing you have a good radar for potential problems, and that you take decisive action. Good on you. Bodes well for next time.
EmperorR Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Continue NC, stay busy (videogames, reading watching movies, listening to music), go for a walk, exercise.
gavinus Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 Good on you for sticking to NC. It know it is hard to move on. You did the right thing by hanging up. It seems like the last time you spoke to her it was all about her wanting to feel better about the way she treated you. If she wanted to be with you she would have made more of an effort in the last month to contact you again. If she cheated once, it is easy to do it again. Keep being strong becuase that gives you self respect, there is a great chick out there waiting for you, you can do it
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