want her back so much!

[Dreaming69]

Sad dude, sorry to hear of your predicament. But can I just say you every man on here should read your thread. Thats like text book exactly how you should handle a breakup, how you should treat your ex in that situation, and how to heal and move on quickly. Are you sure your only 25??.

 

I was no where near that mature at handling a breakup 25. I went through some pretty messy breakups, and displayed some very ordinary behaviour at the time.

 

Maybe your ex will eventually realise how much of a good guy you are and coming running back after she dates a few idiots...

 

Good luck

[sad_dude]

Hi Dreaming69,

 

Thanks very much for your message, I hope I have handled it well, I have good ppl around me which always makes a massive difference. haha yes i am only 25 I do still get sad and miss her alot at times, but it's life, millions of people are losing their jobs, dying of illnesses etc... I'm sure i can cope with this is what I always think to myself.

 

If she did ever decide to come running back I would stick to my guns and not accpet her back. When i'm ready i'll move on, otherwise i'm happy being single right now, I'm doing more charity work that i was before, i'm able to keep fit at the gym every night of the week and i just generally feel as though when the time is right i will meet hopefully the girl of my dreams (dont really like the whole breaking up thing)

 

thanks for your wishes

 

all the best

[adamt]

my girlfriend split up with me 2 weeks ago, not spoke to her and kept NC. She was under stress because her mom was terminally ill. Before her mum got ill we were planning to get a house together. her moms situation effected our relationship and she pushed me away. I thought that was the cause of the problems, but looking back i think she was changing and having doubts about our relationship. just watch out for the warning signs. A girl will not decide to split up with you overnight unless you have done something bad. Sometimes she is just planning her exit.

 

I'm struggling to come to terms with it, keep waking up early and very up and down each day. Still hope she will have 2nd thoughts but looks unlikely. Its one of those situations where you dont know what you have lost until its gone. Then too late to repair the damage.

[sad_dude]

Hi Admat,

 

Sorry for the late response, I hope you are holding up well my friend

 

It's sometimes really hard to see the signs amongst the other things, like you said her mum was terminally ill, that's going to confuse her somewhat and shift her priorities. One thing I will say is that if she likes you enough, nothing will matter. I think the hardest thing for you will be to come to terms with it.

 

A couple of months ago when I couldnt sleep, had major highs and lows, I decided that no one person should ever make me feel like that. You have to remember you should be incharge of your own happiness.

 

I started running, going to the gym every other day, meeting with friends and seeing all my family so much more. This would tire me out so much, and keep me so bsy i would sleep like a baby.

 

Another tip was after getting things off my chest with my friends and family I decided not to tell them if i was sad or happy, what was going on. I decided to go with the attitude it wasn't meant to be, she clearly in my head was amazing but why?! she had let me down. I sat down and objectively thought about it, what was important to me in a relationship?

 

1) Loyality

2) Trust

3) Being Loved as much as i loved that person

4) commitment

 

I had displayed all of these attributes as had she until that ill-fated day, none of the 4 were there anymore?! if she was to come back would it be the same?

 

the answer i came to (may not be the same as yours) was no, I would always fear she would do it again, I'd made my decision and I have stuck to it and I know I will of not contacting her or speaking to her ever again. I am a man of my word and she knows that.

 

All i can say is try and do things with others, ppl you have more than likely neglected

 

good luck and please let us know how you get on

[drivesmecrazy3]

You also have to consider the fact that maybe theres another guy in the picture. Feelings like that dont just shoot out of nowhere. Sometimes women may be very immature and attempt to make excuses for certain feelings, trying to justify their actions. However, if there really was another guy in the picture, you have to look at it as her fault because of emotional immaturity. Some people know what they want, and others dont. You need to find a girl that wants to be with you because of who you are, and NEVER feels the urge to look elsewhere or seriously question any feelings. Hang in there man, its happened to many others, including me. It hurts so bad, but you'll eventually find the right girl that will end up making you 10x happier.

[highfive123]

Sad_Dude,

 

I had the SAME EXACT thing happen to me. After no contact, I started noticing something was up and she was acting different. We are both college students and when I would run into her on campus during no contact, she would act kind of cold towards me, almost as if I broke up with her. The only thing that was different is SHE ended up deleting me from facebook and everything else...

 

After that, as a caring individual I got concerned thinking something was wrong so I decided to call her. After our first chat, she seemed excited talking to me and agreed that she would call me back to catch up. She never did for 2 weeks, so I talked to her online and again she was being all excited telling me happy things about her life, where she moved too. Then when she asked how i was doing and I also said doing great, telling her about some of the fun things in my life, and thats when she turned COLD. Giving me all these one word answers, almost as if she was expecting me to be doing horrible without her.

 

After that, I tried calling her again few days later, she didn't pick up but texted me back. I asked her again if she wanted to catch up, and thats when she said it would be awkward and she had nothing to say to me.

 

That's when I realized this was truly immature of her and stupid, as I was just wasting my time taking part in her games. So anyway, A few weeks later, I texted her asking if I could get the rest of my stuff. She gave me a time to come by and pick it up, I came...but no one answered the door. I tried texting her and her roommate about it, still haven't got a response, and its been almost a week.

 

As time goes on and so does this "story" lol...I have learned to be like a rock and truly not be phased by anything. Let me know if you have any advice for anything, as our initial stories are almost completely the same.

[sad_dude]

Hey Drivesmecrazy3

 

I couldn't agree with you more, things do suck for while and it's tough, but if you can get through the tough times with maturity and your head held up high, it can make you so much stronger as a person. For me it's always been about doing the right thing it doesn't matter what happens, because I know I can live with all my actions.

 

You are right some people will justify falling or wanting to be with someone else. I have a theory it's a need to be validated by someone else to prove they are good looking and wanted by others men/women.

[sad_dude]

Hi HighFive123.

 

1st thing, is your stuff really expensive? I wouldn't think twice about wanting to get them back if they aren't, you are lowering your value if you are going back for something like a tooth brush. If it helps put things in perspective I have left i'd say half my wardrobe at my ex's place, and the last thing i want to do is get that stuff back (though i do appreciate it maybe tougher as you are a college student - i remember those tough times with tight money). I guess what i'm trying to say is if it's nothing to important to you that you can replace then just leave it.

 

If you really want to get your stuff back, I suggest leaving it for at least 1 month, let her cool off. Then approach her and only her, don't ever go through her friends if after 1 month - 6 weeks she hasn't replied, I think forget about them. As a last resort say a friend will come and pick up the stuff and you aren't really interested in seeing her.

 

2nd thing: I think this girl has some issues, it's a classic "i don't want him but i don't want to see him with someone else/happier than me. Why is he moving on before me, I dumped him." I hope you don't take offence of what i just said about your ex, but seriously i think she is seeing you can cope without her and she does not like it. I really suggest to keep doing what you are doing, have fun.

 

3rd thing: what are your long term intentions:

1) do you just want to be friends?

2) do you want to be friends and see if it kicks off again in the future

3) do you just want your things back?

4) do you want to just move on?

 

Be honest with yourself, (i can say for the first month after my break up i was thinking i was all 4 throughout the day lol )

 

 

All I can say is never stoop to her level, some people would suggest winning is having the girl, getting the last word in, getting over her before she does you, say by getting a new girl, before she gets a new guy.

 

I say winning is next time you see her and walk past her don't mention your things you would like to collect or make it akward. Just smile, greet her as you would an old friend and be on your way. Show her whatever she is trying to do to hurt you or annoy you, you will rise above it and be the better person.

 

Let me know what you want to do with her next as then i'd be able to advise you alot better, my choice of the 4 was number 4 time to move on. As an example, my 2 Ex girlfriends back messed me about, I cut her out of my life after the break up, I got her begging for forgivness, wanting to be friends, even wanting to get back with me at one point. I had made my choice, she was not fit to be with me and not worthy of friendship. To this day 3.5 years on, i have not spoken a word to her, returned calls, emails anything. Some call me cold hearted, but I knew I once I made my choice I had to stick to it.

 

One of my first things I say when the relationship gets serious. If you mess me about, hell will freeze over before i give you the time of day.

 

Look forward to hearing from you my friend, i hope you are holding up well

[highfive123]

I completely agree with everything you said! you can call her whatever you want and i won't take any offense to that anymore. The way she has treated me after this whole thing is lower than shi* itself. Btw, during the relationship I treated her like a queen. We were talking about marriage, planning lives together after college, the whole nine yards. During the last two weeks I felt like something was slowly going wrong, as I felt her distancing herself and me becoming more "needy" trying to find out what's wrong. Until the night right before the breakup she was all over me again...just like the honeymoon phase. To fill you in a little more:

 

1. She broke up with me more than 3 months ago. She wanted to be friends, cried, said she felt "terrible", bla bla. For the first week I tried to change her decision, wanted to work on it, told her I would change, and basically took the blame on myself.

 

2. She kept contacting me throughout the next couple weeks to see if I was doing ok, if I went on any dates with new girls (which she wanted me to do, and move on) and be happy, and then finally if I wanted to pick up my stuff. I picked it up, as she had everything in bags all set to go, and left...literally took about 30 seconds. I think she even told me to call her up sometimes, which I kind of shrugged off and left, as I needed to heal and focus on myself.

 

3. After that I started no contact for around 2 months, I stopped contacting her completely. I started focusing on myself, going on some fun dates and hanging out with other girls. Even put up some facebook pictures of me doing new fun exciting things. I did run into her on campus sometimes and would be super confident and happy, and say "hey watsup" or "hey, how are ya", which she for the first couple times wouldn't even respond, or would say "not bad" and keep walking...giving me the cold shoulder.

 

4. After all this she would put up facebook statuses and away messages like she would be having fun doing things...which I know she didn't even like and also other "real" things such as hanging out with other guys, etc. Honestly, I thought it was all to catch my attention...She also at the same time started to delete pictures of both of us, untagging them. Finally bout 2 months into no contact, she deleted me as a friend on facebook...which I thought was completely immature and just "asking" for attention. Right before that, she was putting up lyrics from "heartbreak" songs..so i figured she was hurt, wanted me back, and decided to be nice and call.

 

5. After the "friend deletion" I decided to call her up. To my surprise, she picked up the phone, seemed surprised that I called, and even told me some new stuff about her, her job, fun things, etc. I told her we should catch up sometime, which she agreed to call me back and let me know when she wasn't busy. At this time I was thinking she wants me back, so i'll ask her out for a quick fun "date", and see if things spark up again. For two weeks she didn't call, so I talked to her online over AIM. Again she seemed excited to talk to me, telling me what she was up to, where she now lives, all this fun stuff without me even asking. Then when she asked me how I am doing and I responded with fun things going in my life...again she gave me the cold shoulder, almost as if she wanted to hear me doing terrible without her.

 

6. After a couple more situations such as these: me contacting her, and getting the cold shoulder, telling me catching up would be awkward and she had nothing to say to me, I got sick of it. I figured that she can't stand to see me happy, and doesn't want anything to do with me unless I do whatever she wants like I did before. I decided to contact her to that I need the rest of my stuff back. The stuff that in the first place I figured since we were friends, I could get it whenever I want. She told me to come by during a time and that she wouldn't be there but her roommate can give me my things. I pretty much called her out on being upset and told her that if she wasn't upset then she wouldn't mind being friends like she wanted to before, as she said she was happy and doing well. She really had no "smart" response to that, so I wished her luck, asked for the address, and told her it was now up to her if she wanted to be friends.

 

7. Anyway, I came by and knocked for like 10 minutes. No one was there, so I texted her saying I came by...she neve replied. I also texted her roommate which I also know....she never replied either.

 

So this is where I am at right now...and thats the story in a nutshell...more like a novel...lol. I completely agree with you on it being the classic "I don't want him but I don't want him to see him with someone else/happier than me. Why is he moving on before me, I dumped him". I also went through all 4 stages...but right now I don't even want her as a friend either. Throughout this whole thing I have been nothing but nice, friendly, happy, and trying to heal, and have gotten the boot from her. All I want is my stuff back which after she told me to come get it, no one was there or replied to my texts.

 

It's like she's playing a game with me...or even trying to intentionally piss me off. I did tell her that I am not angry at her for dumping me anymore and agreed that it was the best for both of us as she kept saying she was right, so I agreed with her, and wasn't going to waste my time arguiing about it.

 

Now all I want is my stuff back, any more advice on getting my things...? I don't want to just show up at any time and look stupid. I even asked her to give it to a mutual friend, but she said that if I want it that bad I should come get it.

 

Congrats to you on sticking to your decisions even though they came back crying and begging for you back. They made the choice, it was their fault and now they have to live with the consequence. Good for you!

[Exit]

I'm in the same boat brother. Been 2 months since I got dumped. We were talking about marriage and everything too. At first I kept talking to her, trying to fix things, finally we had one last phone conversation, she said no again, and I said "fine, then it's your responsibility to give me my things back". She said "ok" as if it was absurd to think she would keep my things. Then in an email I reminded her again to give me my things, I offered for her to leave it outside my house and she wouldn't have to talk to me if she didn't want to, just in case she thought I was trying to trap her into a discussion or whatever.

 

I went over one day while she was working and left her most of her things and took whatever was mine from her place. But she still has some important things in her car. Those are the things I am waiting to get back. I told her if we're really done please don't hesitate to return my things because it would just give me hope.

 

2 weeks later and I still don't have my things. I don't want to break NC to remind her again, I think she is doing it to screw with me. She drives past this neighborhood on her way to work, it would take 2 seconds to drop it off.

 

People have told me to let the stuff go if it's not important, but there are 1 or 2 things I really want back. So the same goes for you, I'm assuming this is stuff you really want back? Don't make a big deal over CDs or something small.

 

She sounds just like my ex, she won't arrange for a mutual friend to give it back to you, she won't drop it off, she even says things like "if you want it come get it", so hell, show up one day I guess. That's what I'm gunna have to do. She'll get all pissy that I showed up to get my stuff but she created this situation by not being adult enough to do it herself.

[adamt]

sad dude,

 

its been 19 days since we split up. Felt a lot better in the 3rd week. Joined the gym and been twice and plan to go 3 times a week. Going to focus on getting toned and look into eating really healthy food. It has helped. something to focus on and take my mind off things. just starting to get my appetite back. keeping myself busy at weekends. starting to accept that we wont get back together. the mist is clearing and i have analyzed the relationship and think she started to change begining of february.

 

Probably never find out the reasons, but her mom's situation probably made her look at things differently. she was a very homely girl but then she started to want to go out more.(i've never had a problem with that) She got into the gym about october and seemed to step it up in february. She seems to be focusing on her fitness and healthy eating. She changed jobs 18 months ago and i think that has brought her confidence out, met a load of new friends. basically she doesnt have time for our relationship and i was the part of her life that was going to be pushed aside. we both lived in different towns but were planning in 2009 to get a house together.she wanted to go viewing houses in january.

 

Its weird how the relationship turned around because she was the one who was more settled and comfortable and i was wanting to go out and do things. We were both into each other but for most of the time she was the one just that little bit more keener. I think i may have got too comfortable and complacent and took her for granted. or maybe the relationship just run its course and would have ended anyway. but hard not to look back and think if only i had done that differently.

 

Not spoke to her since. the urges are there sometimes to contact her but i wont bother. Once we were both on MSN at the sametime but she never spoke to me. Its sad that 3 years of your life can just disappear like that. It hurts to think that she is probably relieved to be out of the relationship.

 

Some of my mates were surprised we split up. Especially her dumping me. I went out on saturday night and had a good time. went out last night for a quieter night and started to miss her.

 

I have occassions where i have a quick cry but the butterflies in the stomach have gone. It filling the time that can be a problem, especially on an evening when i would have come home from work and spoke to her on msn.

 

Things are improving slowly.

[highfive123]

Exit,

 

We are in the same situation....the thing is...I already came by to come to get my stuff when she told me to, but no one opened the door and no one was there (she said her roommate would be). Then I texted both her and her roommate about it, and haven't had a response...its been over a week.

 

I don't understand how they want you completely out of their lives, and when you agree its like they get pissed off, and bitter about it. It's almost as if they want to be chased and wanted, but when we don't it hurts their ego. That's the only thing I can think of is why they are behaving like that.

 

What is your take on this? That's the only thing I can think of...

 

Also, I don't want to just show up at her place as I don't want to give her any more attention. I already told her if she doesn't want to be friends then I would leave her alone, and wished her luck. You got any ideas? Let's come up with some ideas and figure this out...lol

[crew]

Its weird how the relationship turned around because she was the one who was more settled and comfortable and i was wanting to go out and do things. We were both into each other but for most of the time she was the one just that little bit more keener. I think i may have got too comfortable and complacent and took her for granted. or maybe the relationship just run its course and would have ended anyway. but hard not to look back and think if only i had done that differently.

 

Adamt, I am in a similar situation. My ex always seemed keener and showered me with affection, then suddenly it all stopped. I couldn't understand it.. He blamed it all on work but to be honest I still don't believe him. I ended up breaking it off because I don't think being with someone who just ignores me and goes to bed when I am heart broken and crying is the right thing to do.

 

Its really easy to keep secnd guessing yourself and what you did wrong. But I guess what we all have to do is just move on and make sure we don't make the same mistakes in the next relationship. Though to be honest I can't imagine being with anyone else right now. I still miss him so much and I can't seem to enforce the NC rule even though I know its the right thing to do..

[Exit]

Also, I don't want to just show up at her place as I don't want to give her any more attention. Let's come up with some ideas and figure this out...lol

 

Yeah, I know how you feel. I don't want to give her any more attention either. She is probably holding onto my things knowing that it'll make me pay attention to her, and I don't want to give in. But I don't really have a choice except waiting outside one day when she leaves for work. That way I won't have to "ask" her to come outside and get her too cooperate. We'll meet at her car and I'll get my things. My only other option is talking to her mother about it. But either way, since the things are in her car, she's going to get "attention". Still though, if I can walk away without really saying anything to her, I didn't exactly "give in". I'm not going to beg her again or say much of anything. She will have to accept that I came for my things and walked away.

 

My ex always seemed keener and showered me with affection, then suddenly it all stopped.

 

I experienced this too. My ex was crazy about me, wanted to hang out every single day even though I didn't get out of work til 8:30pm, we'd meet up just to spend an hour or two together. Eventually it all just stopped, I ended up always asking her for more attention like she used to give me. And she ended up leaving me. Nobody understands it. Even her mom knew how bad she wanted to start going out with me and nobody understands how she did a complete 180 and changed her mind.

[adamt]

She seemed to stop wanting sex with me sometime before xmas. As we both lived in different towns i didnt think anything of it. also she had a lot of stress from other stuff. then as the weekends passed i started to notice it (issues going on outside the relationship that made me think it was other things, having hangovers..etc). maybe she was doing it so i would ask her what is up. It started to push me away, was that so i wanted to stop myself from getting hurt?. valentines came and went then into march and my birthday. and still no sex. i wanted to ask but she was struggling to cope with other stuff. then i noticed she would go straight to sleep and if at her house get up early and do house jobs. then having laptops and wireless internet got in the way. probably easier than talking to each other by that stage. when we split up clearly there was crossed wires and lack of communication when we talked.

[Exit]

She seemed to stop wanting sex with me sometime before xmas. As we both lived in different towns i didnt think anything of it. also she had a lot of stress from other stuff.

 

Same thing happened to me and I figured she was stressed about her last few months of school, which she was, but it still should have been a red flag to me.

 

Anyways today I got my stuff back from her, so I guess I "broke" NC although I didn't really say much. As I predicted, she acted all pissy that I even showed up and said "what?" as if to pretend she didn't still have my belongs in her car. I said I'm here for the stuff that you haven't dropped off in two weeks. I started taking some of it and she said she had to get to work and I should just let her gather it up (aka take care of it on a different day). So it seems like she is still hesitating, she's making it so she's going to have to see me again. Yes she was probably running late for work but she could have just gotten it over with today. I did tell her I'm done waiting for her, she better be certain that this is what she wants because I will be moving on. Now let's see how many weeks it takes for her to "gather up" the rest of my things that she didn't feel like doing today. She couldn't look me in the face and seemed pretty confused. I still don't think she's sure about this. I'm okay without her (seeing her in reality helped break the fantasy of this amazing person i had in my head) but maybe she is going to change her mind.

[highfive123]

After coming to her house to get my stuff and no one opening the door, I texted her, and her roommate about it. It's been about two weeks now, and as I patiently waited to get my stuff back or hear some kind of "feedback"...she actually texted me yesterday saying she's going to leave my stuff on the porch and for me to come get it.

 

Interesting thing is...I was just going to contact her again and let her know I still need the things back...just an update, look like i'm going over there.

[wow123]

highfive,

 

She is acting like you broke up with her??? Shes leaving the stuff on the porch so she doesn't have to see you? Strange.

[Exit]

Well at least you are finally getting your stuff back. I got most of mine the other day but she told me she had to get to work and would take care of the rest another time, wonder how long she's going to keep me waiting this time.

[sad_dude]

Hi Adamt,

Appologies for the slow response, i've been reading the thread, but been away on business and any reponse i would have given would have been too short.

Reading what you have written is an all to familiar story, but in a relationship your partner must want to spend time with you however busy they are. It would be easy for me to sit here writing this and say time will make it all good. But like you say 3 weeks on the butterflies have gone.

There will be guys that will say don't cry, all i'll say is do what works for you, but try your best not to talk to her when you feel like crying. It won't make either of you feel good. I think you need to ask whether you want to get back together or not. also i wouldn't read to much into the MSN thing, my ex told me she really wanted to speak to me all the time, but just didn't know what to say. I'm not condoning what she has done (hell it happened to me), but she will be feeling bad about what happened too, was it the right choice? will I ever see him again? i really hurt him? she will think all these things and feel sad/cry feel pain, just like you.

Dignity is an under-rated quality, you could come out being the big man, that let her go for her happiness and you did it with your head held up high. For the first few weeks I had the what ifs and the how could she? I mean after everything she said?!

All i can say is keep mega busy, don't have a free hour in the day, plan in advance, learn something new, i've taken up a couple of new sports, when i'm out there on the field i think about how i'm playing what to do next, not about someone that doesn't deserve my time! I suggest delete her off your msn, or at least block her. Get on with your life, trust me you deserve better, as soon as you realise this it will help you in moving on.

Give me a shout if you want to chat

Take care my friend, the journey will be a troubled one, but if you come out a stronger you will be a winner and win at life. I truely doubt she will be able to say the same!

[sad_dude]

Hi Crew,

 

Really am sorry to hear about your situation. It seems there is a communication break down, you deserve answers. Is he happy to be away from you now you have broken up.

 

Don't be too hard on yourself, it will get better, just remember you deserve to be treated as an equal and not ignored, we aren't children anymore. There maybe things that he didn't like or things you did wrong, but if he can't even tell you then there is something fundamentally wrong. All i can say is really don't be hard on yourself.

 

We al think that girl/boy is the only one for us, and can't think of being with anyone else, trust me it will get easier. My ex always said we should communicate with me, would be all over me, be really insecure if i spoke to any girls, but then all of a sudden 1 week before we broke up she just became cold, before that it was all fine. Goes to show how some people can hide so well.

 

NC is tough, we all have our moments of weakness, just try doing things without regret, so if you think you regret talking to him or doing something don't do it.

 

take care and all the best, let us know how you get on

[highfive123]

Wow,

 

She has been acting hot and cold towards me. I completely don't understand her. She has been acting like I broke up with her, ever since I became my regular old confident self and started going out. I was doing the "begging" at first, but then I gave up and decided I needed to move on. After that it seems like she became bitter about the whole deal and doesn't even want to be my friend anymore...something that she offered to me in the first place. I completely don't understand this girl at all anymore.

[highfive123]

I came by again today as she said she would leave my stuff on the porch, the stuff again wasn't there again...wtf..

[sad_dude]

Hifive123

 

It seems likes she's trying to mess with you, to make it harder for you to get over her. Suppose she doesn't like you being over her before she is over you. all i can say is wait for her to contact you, when she does (i'm sure she will) tell her you aren't messing about and wanting to meet up, you just want your things back and would like to be mature about this all.

 

good luck man!

[crew]

Thanks sad_dude,

 

now that we have broken up he wants me back but says that if I don't want to be with him then we should enforce NC (to which I agree). Anyway, there is no way I could take him back now because I find that once you see a side of a person that you never knew existed its impossible to go back. Even if he promised to treat me better I could never trust him as I know that he is capable of being completely cold towards me.

 

To the rest of the guys, I actually think tha sex is quite a good indicator of the relationship. My ex kept finding fault with me in the few months before we broke up. If I wasn't wearing sexy lingerie he'd say that it was a turn off or he'd say that hes tired. It really hurt me because women aren't stupid, we can sens when theres something wrong in the relationship. It really hurts to get constantly rejected by someone who once couldn't take his hands off you. OH and if ur wondering, he didn't say it because I had suddenlyput on weight, if anything I was putting in more effort into my appearance but he felt that I was boring him and wasn't interesting anymore.. I guess thats what happens in long term relationships, you get boring. And I have gotten boring I guess, or maybe it was the large age gap (hes a lot older than me).

 

Good luck you guys, I am going overseas for a month to get my mind off him