dreamergrl Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Things have gotten SO much better with me and bf. We communicate great, are getting along great, no more crappy icky feelings, everything has just been wonderful. Then he is given a chance to go live and work in Iowa. He says he doesn't want to go, but this is a good opportunity for him to get ahead. He can make some good money. He says he doesn't want to stay there forever, but just for a few months. He doesn't want to break up he says, he wants me to stay faithful to him, and him to me. He says he'll either call or write every day, stay in contact. He told me his feelings for me wont change. Here's the kicker, while he is there working, he's going to be staying with a friend from high school, a girl. She apparently knows he has a gf, says she doesn't think of him in that way, and wont be over stepping any boundaries. She has a daughter that lives with her, and she comes up here often so her daughter can visit her ex (daughter's dad) so he'll be visiting me too. I feel like every time something starts going good, it gets taken away from me. I'll be moving into my own pad come June/July (depends on what type of schedule I get after May). I trust him to do the right thing, however, I wonder if we have a good enough bond where it wont fade while he's gone. He's continued to be honest with me, and I haven't had any bad gut feelings. I want to continue my relationship with him, but am scared of him meeting someone else. Sigh.
northstar1 Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Things have gotten SO much better with me and bf. We communicate great, are getting along great, no more crappy icky feelings, everything has just been wonderful. Then he is given a chance to go live and work in Iowa. He says he doesn't want to go, but this is a good opportunity for him to get ahead. He can make some good money. He says he doesn't want to stay there forever, but just for a few months. He doesn't want to break up he says, he wants me to stay faithful to him, and him to me. He says he'll either call or write every day, stay in contact. He told me his feelings for me wont change. Here's the kicker, while he is there working, he's going to be staying with a friend from high school, a girl. She apparently knows he has a gf, says she doesn't think of him in that way, and wont be over stepping any boundaries. She has a daughter that lives with her, and she comes up here often so her daughter can visit her ex (daughter's dad) so he'll be visiting me too. I feel like every time something starts going good, it gets taken away from me. I'll be moving into my own pad come June/July (depends on what type of schedule I get after May). I trust him to do the right thing, however, I wonder if we have a good enough bond where it wont fade while he's gone. He's continued to be honest with me, and I haven't had any bad gut feelings. I want to continue my relationship with him, but am scared of him meeting someone else. Sigh. I guess you have to determine if the relationship is strong enough to withstand an LDR for several months. Sounds like things have gotten better after the rocky 1st month you had - so I guess you need to see if you can trust him, or want to go months without seeing him. Could you plan to see him while he's away?
jets Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 it all depends.. and its da responsibility of you both- an equal responsibility! im myself in a ldr for past 1 yr.. n thngs hv been jus gr8. we ppl talk a lot 2 each othr- 1-2 hrs daily n exchange mails frequently, send eac othr gifts etc.. it can work! jus b faithful and control all feelings to control ur partner who is away... jus trust each othr..
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