alasia Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 My ex and i have been apart for 6wks. we have 2 children,were living together and had been together for 3yrs. anyway the first 2-3wks he was changeable,saying he wanted to try again then we would have an argument and he would say he didnt want to be with me...last sunday and monday he stayed the night at my house and we got on great,acted like we were back together and monday afternoon he said he was sure he wanted to move back in and would do it by the end of the week. we spoke today and he said he wants to be with me, but isnt sure whether he wants to move in - the reason he gave is our petty bickering and sniping, which we have been doing a lot, but im willing to work on it and he says he is too. he also says he wants to take things a day at a time, work through the niggles and sort them out together, as he wants everything to be right this time. those were his exact words,and to me that means he doesnt want to get back together and is just saying he does cos he thinks it what i want. am i right?
stephy Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 I am no expert in love by any means lord knows that.But from what you said sounds to me like he just wants to take things slowly this time and work out the kinks yall had last time before just jumping right back in. And if you think about it that might be the best way to go.If he wanted it to be over and done with I dont see him saying that he wants to take things slow. He would be saying this just wont ever work.
Author alasia Posted April 12, 2009 Author Posted April 12, 2009 Maybe..i just thought maybe he was being a bit of a coward and saying take it slowly,to get out of having to say that he didnt really want to try again. letting me down gently,if u know what i mean? we had a long chat today, he said he does like his own space and being single in a way,but would prefer us to be a couple again. he says he does want to move back in after the 18th when he has a week off work - but thats ages away yet and surely if he had strong enough feelings for me,he would want to move in straight away? am i being silly?
Treasa Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 I don't know if silly is the right word, but I think you're being a tad clingy and impatient. If you two are having problems right now, maybe living apart (for what, five more days?) is the way to go. Perhaps couples counseling is in order. If he says he loves you and wants to be with you, relax. If you continue to push for things to go your way, you may push him away completely.
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