boogieboy Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Be careful what advice you act out. This is a crucial point in your relationship and making the wrong moves will send her away for good. There are proven methods that relationship counselors have used for many years. I would suggest looking at what the experts say and them make a decision on how to proceed. oh no, not another one. Your book says to cut contact for a month and then try again. Unfortunately for him, his ex is crazy, and there is no chance for it to work. He violated everything your book said not to do afterr a breakup. Plus, trying to get back with your ex after a month or two doesnt work about 99% of the time. Copa, I shall be joining Caliguy in smacking you. Like that woman in the movie airplane? You need DETOX!!!!!!!! No more calls, texts, facebook, NOTHING! I normally wouldnt advise this, but... Start going to strip clubs and talking to girls there! They have to be nice, so you can work on your confidence there. You know they wont get with you, but trying to flirt with them might help take some thoughts of your ex away. Then try talking to girls on the street, or in clubs. Just for the confidence, not necessarily to hook up with. You have to see that there are other women out there. You have to FORCE yourself to do it.
CaliGuy Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 oh no, not another one. Yep. Someone new pimping a "cure all" book to win someone back. Copa, I shall be joining Caliguy in smacking you. Like that woman in the movie airplane? Maybe enough of him contacting her and her being rude to him will be the wakeup call he needs. People need to understand when someone walks away from you, they don't do it because they are in love with you. They do it because the love is gone. And there's no fracking book in the world that can MAKE someone love you.
Island Girl Posted June 11, 2009 Posted June 11, 2009 Guide for the Long Walk -- LS guide for NC http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/ Get a NC Buddy!! Need a NC buddy? Look here You were feeling bad so you went and contacted the person that ALWAYS makes you feel worse. That doesn't make any sense does it? You keep banging your head against a brick and wishing it would be water. It is always going to be a brick. Stop contacting her in all ways. Do not have any contact at all. Block her from your dog's Facebook page -- delete her in all ways.
Author copaisking Posted June 12, 2009 Author Posted June 12, 2009 you are all correct. I need a slap. In the face. Hard. My therapist sent me to Cedars-Sinai hospital yesterday because she couldn't guarantee my safety. WTF? I've let myself, get into such a messed up mental position that someone wants to put me in a loony bin overnight (I left Cedars after waiting for 3 hours in their ER... there was a kid with a gunshot wound... very disturbing. After yesterday, which was in no doubt, one of the worst, and embarrassing days of my entire life, I have made the decision, that I have to follow your advice, and literally cut her out. What do you do to a cancer in your body? you usually cut it out, and thats what I feel about her, that she is a cancer to me that is seriously endangering my mental health (I know that ultimately i'm responsible for this, i'm not trying to blame her) and for me to get better... that is the only way. I have deleted her from everywhere. If only it were that easy to delete her from my head MiguelRG... the reason that I have a facebook for my dog is that i'm a little bit weird. No, but seriously, I'm originally from England, now living in Southern California, this is the first dog that i've brought, and all of my family and friends at home wanted pictures all the time, so I thought it would be funny to set up a facebook for him, he's a very popular mini english bulldog. And yes, you're all right, I did know she would probably be on facebook now... that was hard to admit. BoogieBoy... the confidence issue is a major work in progress. The funny thing is, I get girls, but it never seems to be the ones that I really want, and when I do get them, I stick them on this pedestal. I am working on this though, through a combination of therapy and hypnosis (I brought a system online, and I must admit, its good, if you want to know more pm me). I've never been one for strip clubs, I kind of don't know what to say when a girl is gyrating her cooch in my face but it's a good idea, I do need to start getting myself out there. It's like last night, I had the chance to go to a party at a club where it was this girls birthday, she's a model, it would have been full of her model friends... what did I do? stay in and go to bed...
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