justme43 Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Hi all, He left me again, not the first time but the 3rd in 6 months and always by email. To keep it short common law relationship over 3 years in our 40's 5 kids between us. He works out of town and home on weekends and I guess from what he feels I'm a bitch end of story. I have a different view b/c of the **** he has put me through and why i have become such a needy person. He has been sending me very hurtful emails over the last 6 months when he is on his I'm leaving you stints. I try not to answer for as I can say some really nasty stuff myself. So this NC I put in plan starting today. I'm not looking forward of the dividing of our properties since we have aquired a lot over these 3 years together. And to tell you the truth I'm very sad, scared and lonely. I have been lonely for most of our time together and now not having the 10 minute conversations are killing me. This may not make sense i'm in need of venting.
Domenik Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 I know I'm a bit younger than you and don't really know what to tell you but, I do have a few questions if you don't mind? Do you have a relationship with God? This will help alot through the greaving process. I know you must love this man dearly or you wouldn't keep leting him come back into your life. What does he do for work? have you read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbends" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger? Also a few others by her " Ten Stupid Things Women do to Screw-up Thier Lives" and "Woman Power" If you have childeren between you you need to do what's best for them first! Above all take care of your self and know someone out there is praying for you!
delajoonal Posted April 24, 2009 Posted April 24, 2009 i completely agree with Domenik...i am NOT a bible thumper, BUT i have a great relationship with God and pray constantly...it helps to keep you grounded...which i am having a difficult time myself these days, i am crying mess, stbxh left ME after 14 years of marriage, get this..for HIMSELF..not even another woman..LOL...what a slap in the face, right?..LOL as for dividing property, i am making IT easy on us both..i am KEEPING EVERYTHING..LOL..no kidding...he said fine, he doesn't deserve anything after what he did to me. i hope you get what you deserve too...cause you sound like a very nice person... anyway, keep posting here on LS, try to find a little spriituality, faith, etc...or if not, then a really good divorce care group...you need to be with people who understand your pain and are going thru it too and can be there for you...don't let yourself be alone, OK:) we ALL are here for you too:) take care and good luck... keep us posted:)
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