Mr. Word Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 I've met the most amazing woman! We've been dating for 6 weeks and it was love at first sight. I've never felt this strong about someone before. The problem is it's making me nervous. I don't feel totally comfortable around her yet. I get all shy and I'm not my usual funny, quick-witted self. But it's been 6 weeks and I'm wondering when we'll be able to get more comfortable around each other. I know she's crazy about me too ,yet she's been the same way. We're both a little formal and super polite around one another. I'm so into this girl and I want us to be able to just relax yet we can't. This has never been a problem with me before, but then again I've never felt this way before. There's a slight age factor; she's 24, I'm 36...but I'm pretty young at heart and she's very mature, so I don't think that's it. Does anyone think there's a problem here or does this seem OK, and it'll just take time?
samspade Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Have more fun with it. You sound like you are putting pressure on yourself and the relationship as it moves forward. Six weeks should be the time when it's a barrel of monkeys. Keep a proper perspective and be sure and be the "guy" in the equation (don't be indecisive, needy, etc). Make her laugh. You'll be amazed what an aphrodisiac a sense of humor can be.
rlindzie Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 ya just have fun! in time you will both relax especialy after first time somethning funny or embaressing happens it just takes some time, nothing to worry about i get the same way with a guy i really like. its like ur brain goes out the window lol:)
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Go find activities you can share that you both enjoy. Things that'll give you a chance to laugh together - it'll help you to both relax. You could also find activities that make you feel confident in yourself. For instance, my BF is awesome on a snowmobile - that was one of our first activities. He got a chance to show off his skills and we had a lot of fun together. I'd say physical activities help couples get to know each other a lot better, too. Then you can focus more on the physical movements rather than being so self-conscious about your feelings.
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