justme2781 Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 so my new man who is amazing says he loves me. he is divorcing a woman he was with for 17 years. its been over a year, but not by much. now i understand that they maybe werent happy in the marriage at th end but it just seams so fast and she is dating someone and i almost feel like he just wants to b in love because she is??? i just think its so fast and maybe he does but i would like to know what others thisnk. my back story is that he is 44 and i am 27/28 this month. we have incredible sex!! lol
Author justme2781 Posted April 10, 2009 Author Posted April 10, 2009 oh yeah we have known eachother for 4 months and have been dating for 1 and a half. we were in a play together.
colosseum Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Sounds difficult... I think there is definitely at least a grain of truth to your thinking that it's a bit fast...But maybe it's just been a really crappy last few years of his marriage and a great year with you. But I'm afraid there might be more to this than meets the eye...
Art_Critic Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 he is divorcing a woman he was with for 17 years. Red flag.. he is going to need some time to recoup from this..and is his divorce final ? and i almost feel like he just wants to b in love because she is??? He is and really is if his divorce isn't final yet.. i just think its so fast and maybe he does it is he is 44 and i am 27 this month. That stands on it's own. we have incredible sex!! lol that stands on it own too...is the relationship primarily one based on sex? I think you are very wise to wonder about the longevity possibilities of this relationship.. honestly.. only time will tell but if I was a betting man I would bet that he is about to go thru an identity crisis and you are what he is looking for to pull him thru it.
colosseum Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Agree with Art Critic, essentially... 17 years of a marriage? That's a long time, my friend. And to say "love" to someone after just one year seems a bit hurried. I'm sure both your boy and his ex are trying to cope with their past in some ways right now... I say proceed with caution...or try to talk to him. Good luck to you.
Author justme2781 Posted April 10, 2009 Author Posted April 10, 2009 he just got the divorce papers they had to live apart for a year. so its not final. its so scary i have talked to him and he says he is genuine and i think he believes he is but i am just not sure he really is. i cant understand where he is coming from so i just dont know. we have great sex but we also have a great connection.
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