Alan430 Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Well long story short , my wife left me 4months ago. She didnt love me anymore, she wanted more... Etc. Well now that she is own her own, she calls me about once a week, telling me how i got it made, how shiny my life is etc. Granted she has not asked to try to work on thing just saying that my life is so much better then hers cause of my finances. This last weekend she called and i exploded on the phone. I just am so sick of these calls. My finances are hurting too. I told her i would pay her the Agreed upon CS once we finalize the divorce. Granted i am paying alot more right now still covering her insurance and paying all our sons expenses. (50-50 Shared custody as of now). Was it wrong for this to anger me?? I know she is struggling financially, she always over comments on things like phone plans etc. Should i be more willing to help her? I am paying her Cable also and gave her 1300 dollars 2 weeks ago from our tax return. I just want to keep things civil for our son, but it is starting to grate my nerves. Never once has she called to ask me how i was doing. Oh i have gotten in really good shape and i think this may be bothering her that i am looking much better.
SRV Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 You need to ignore the calls and let it go to VM. If it is anything important she will leave a VM, and return the call based on the urgency. If it has not to do with your son, I would ignore it.
Gowithflow Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Hah! I'm in the same boat. I never asked her to leave or cheat. I'm so sick of it! STBX asked me for extra cash last week and I denied her. She's been a total bitch to me ever since. In other words, she's real nice when she wants something from me. Now she says she's getting a lawyer. Fine with me. The wallet just shut tighter, (I pay more than my share for our daughter's expenses too, plus have 50/50 custody like you). Are you going to have to pay her alimony? Is she going to go after you in the divorce proceedings?
seibert253 Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Ignore her calls and don't look back. She wanted her own life, now she's got it. Happens so often with walk aways. They think that life is greener, but it usually is not. I aways told my wife, you leave, that's it, there's no coming back.
mark982 Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 alan, you gotta quit paying for her crap,toss her off your insurance she's responsible for that plus if you keep paying for it judge might order you to keep paying for it. cable bills gotta go also,man she wanted on her own,let her pay for it. you're enabeling her lifestyle.
Author Alan430 Posted April 10, 2009 Author Posted April 10, 2009 Yah i know you guys are all right. Gowiththeflow, no she hasnt mentioned alamony but shes got alot of girlfriends filling her head with "Take everything hes got". Yet i did nothing wrong in the marriage. Mark i know your right, but i cant help feeling like she is still my reponsibility, since we are still married. I did tell her she will get the CS once he gets me the papers. Then i will feel much better droping her out of my fanancial life.
Gunny376 Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Her Happy @ss had be glad she married to you than me! It would be "root hog or freaking die!"
Chrome Barracuda Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 What the hell is a root hog??? Also alan WTF are you doing paying any of her bills, have the seperation papers drawn up and have her legally and financially take care of herself. Why are you supporting her. it isnt making her come home? why support a woman who abandoned you?
Gowithflow Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Yah i know you guys are all right. Gowiththeflow, no she hasnt mentioned alamony but shes got alot of girlfriends filling her head with "Take everything hes got". Yet i did nothing wrong in the marriage. Mark i know your right, but i cant help feeling like she is still my reponsibility, since we are still married. I did tell her she will get the CS once he gets me the papers. Then i will feel much better droping her out of my fanancial life. Most of the states are "no fault" meaning it doesn't matter who screwed up the marriage and you have to split up assets aquired during the marriage. Plus, whoever makes more money could be forced to support the other person for a set amount of time depending on how long you were married. Usually half of the amount of time you were married. The amount of money is usually up to the judge. The ex will have a lot of say in this if you plan on settling out of court. I was kissing ass in hopes of being civil and saving money perhaps, but we had a big argument and I told her to F.O. Now she is getting a lawyer and her divorced friends are cheering her on. If she is having hardship then she can go and ask for a temporary order for "family support" and "maintenance". If this happens you could be screwed again! Going through a divorce is like having your balls in a vice! You can be a prick, but who is laughing thier way to the bank in the long run? The man? usually not. What can we do? Nothing. Be a good dad and enjoy that as much as possible. Take a break from the drama whenever possible. Walkaway wives deserve nothing, but they always seem to rub everything in peoples faces like they are the complete victim. Meantime, 9 out of 10 of them are leaving the man for someone else. I liked being married for the most part, but I will NEVER do that again without a clear pre-nup agreement. If they want to leave, fine. You get nothing from me and there's no aftermath.
Gunny376 Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 What the hell is a root hog??? Also alan WTF are you doing paying any of her bills, have the seperation papers drawn up and have her legally and financially take care of herself. Why are you supporting her. it isnt making her come home? why support a woman who abandoned you? Southern expession meaning really HARD times!
Mauschen Posted April 13, 2009 Posted April 13, 2009 Get rid of her...geez. I had this going on with my marriage too. Abusive husband found a gf, and I left... and of course he never understood why. I only take calls about the children, nothing else at this point. Enjoy your new life!
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