trueblue72ny Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 just wondering what the opinions are out there on this topic.... can you rekindle an old flame from years ago? my ex gf that i work with has told me she is interested in rekindling things with her ex bf. the one she was seeing before we dated. they dated for about three years. then me and her dated for about three years. i am not sure of the real reasons they broke it off in the first place. i suspect she just lost interest. as is the same reason i suspect she ended it with me. in the three years that me and her were dating, he was engaged to be married. that did not work out, unknown why, now he is back on the scene. yaaa, we talk sometimes. she says she wants to be friends and hang out sometime - but not yet..lol. she denies that he is the reason why. not sure what i think about all that. me, i am not sitting around pining over it. i was for the first few months. but at this point i have met a new girl. i have just told my ex gf this last week. it has been 9 months since our breakup. sooo i am just curious what are the opinions out there on this topic. does rekindling an old flame work? will it last? what do you think people?
CaliGuy Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Not sure because it's a guessing game, really. It just depends how bad they really want it. It's a crap shoot really. The devil you know is sometimes better than the devil you don't. If I were you, I'd focus on my new girl and not give your ex another thought.
Porn_Guy Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 for a man? slim and none, and slim just walked out the door for a woman? definitely can be done
Author trueblue72ny Posted April 10, 2009 Author Posted April 10, 2009 ooo i am. make no mistake i am focused on my new girl : )) my life has actually improved since the ex has been gone. it took me awhile to realize that. and it took me awhile to get over her. i grieved quite a lot. some days it still gets to me. but for the most part i am living my life 9 months post break-up. i am doing more now than when i was with her. i got myself a new katana 600 which is sweeet. i joined softball. i am making new friends and having fun. i guess i am just curious to hear from others how long it has lasted getting back with your exes. i have never done it. i think it is possible, i have heard of people getting back together after years, but you broke up for a reason and maybe the same old problems crop up after awhile. it is exciting to see your ex again. been there, done that. but once that excitement wears off i am thinking you are back to where you were before. i think it must be hard to come back after trust is broken. the same old patterns come back. that is probably why i havent gone back. even if they wanted to get back. not because i dont care about them. i have hung out with them as friends! but i am basically turned off by them by the time the circle comes back around. but if it does work out for others, than that is great for them!! if it works out for my ex i will be happy for her, because i do not hate her. i want to see her do well. but i suspect most people do not, or it doesnt last. but again, if it does work out, congrats, you beat the odds! so its really not about me wondering when my next big chance is. she says she wants to be friends at some point. the power is now in my hands. like i said, just curious to hear from people how long it lasted getting back together with their exes.
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