AnthonyF Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Men screw up in a number of ways. Too excited, premature ejaculation, not getting it up, too rough, too gentle too out of sync, trying too hard (as I commented on in another post to get a woman to orgasm)..... If a woman shows interest and participates in sex(making love).... is there anything she can do wrong????
serial muse Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Men screw up in a number of ways. Too excited, premature ejaculation, not getting it up, too rough, too gentle too out of sync, trying too hard (as I commented on in another post to get a woman to orgasm)..... If a woman shows interest and participates in sex(making love).... is there anything she can do wrong???? Sounds like you want to answer this one yourself, Anthony. Go ahead, we're listening...
likestolaugh Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 all of those things, except maybe premature ejaculation...
donnamaybe Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Men screw up in a number of ways. Too excited, premature ejaculation, not getting it up, too rough, too gentle too out of sync, trying too hard (as I commented on in another post to get a woman to orgasm)..... If a woman shows interest and participates in sex(making love).... is there anything she can do wrong???? I guess pointing and laughing would be a bad thing.
loser101 Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Men screw up in a number of ways. Too excited, premature ejaculation, not getting it up, too rough, too gentle too out of sync, trying too hard (as I commented on in another post to get a woman to orgasm)..... If a woman shows interest and participates in sex(making love).... is there anything she can do wrong???? as opposed to just lying there?
Art_Critic Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 She could do her nails,watch TV,answer the phone.. all while getting pumped.. She could not participate and just let me "put it in and get it over with". She could not be clean. In some cases she could speak .. She could drag her teeth. She could spit on you. and I don't mean tobacco She could laugh. She could fall asleep She could bring up past lovers... The list could go on and on fer cripes sake.. the list isn't all that different than what Men could do to screw up in bed..
Untouchable_Fire Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Sounds like you want to answer this one yourself, Anthony. Go ahead, we're listening... Why bother replying if your not going to add anything but a condescending attitude? Lots of guys ask themselves this question at one point or another.
Trialbyfire Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Anthony, people can only "screw up" while having sex, if sex is viewed as a performance, where personal needs trump the object's needs...
Author AnthonyF Posted April 9, 2009 Author Posted April 9, 2009 Sounds like you want to answer this one yourself, Anthony. Go ahead, we're listening... I don't think there is anything they can do wrong as long as they bring a healthy attitude and participate in bed. When responses mention cleanliness and other stuff, that goes without saying. I personally think men have a lot more to worry about in bed then women. If you really push me for something, I'd say a woman who did not orgasm (or only with great difficulty) would be a problem to me. I remember Tristan, the first bachelorette saying she did not orgasm. Here she was choosing amongst 25 bachelors, ended up marrying Ryan and they are still married with kids and I wonder whether that problem (sorry to call it one) was ever resolved. The only other issue women may have is wondering whether they are kinky enough for the male.
Untouchable_Fire Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Anthony, people can only "screw up" while having sex, if sex is viewed as a performance, where personal needs trump the object's needs... While I like and agree with the idea, I don't think it's that simple. You can very focused on your partners needs and still produce an epic fail.
grogster Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 I guess pointing and laughing would be a bad thing. Ya think? Other no no's: no effort to reciprocate foreplay (not every guy is 18); lack of overall responsiveness; does not know how to effectively stroke a penis; no (or ineffective) oral stimulation; doesn't wish to cuddle afterwards; unsolicited negative comparisons to former lovers; poor hygiene (bad breath, smelly); an ill concealed lack of interest and/or arousal; a belief that spreading one's legs is the woman's sole love making responsibility. The list could go on, and on, and on.
Trialbyfire Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 While I like and agree with the idea, I don't think it's that simple. You can very focused on your partners needs and still produce an epic fail.If two people aren't totally into each other, sexually incompatible or there's emotional/mental/physical problems involved, then I suppose you could call it failing. Otherwise, even with the most inexperienced or naive individuals, if there's serious chemistry, there will be flame and fire! Definition of chemistry = physical, emotional and intellectual connection.
grogster Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 If two people aren't totally into each other, sexually incompatible or there's emotional/mental/physical problems involved, then I suppose you could call it failing. Otherwise, even with the most inexperienced or naive individuals, if there's serious chemistry, there will be flame and fire! Definition of chemistry = physical, emotional and intellectual connection. That's true. Chemistry excuses a lot of technical defects--as it should.
Trialbyfire Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 That's true. Chemistry excuses a lot of technical defects--as it should. Haha...excuses....not excuses, electricity trumps mad skillz, every time!
Untouchable_Fire Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 If two people aren't totally into each other, sexually incompatible or there's emotional/mental/physical problems involved, then I suppose you could call it failing. Otherwise, even with the most inexperienced or naive individuals, if there's serious chemistry, there will be flame and fire! Definition of chemistry = physical, emotional and intellectual connection. Your totally right. I was thinking in terms of winning the battle... you just explained how to win the war!
Isolde Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Yeah, if the woman isn't paying any attention to the man's pleasure.
Cherished Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 Anthony, you need to be willing to do oral on the woman if you want her to orgasm every time. I don't think there is anything they can do wrong as long as they bring a healthy attitude and participate in bed. When responses mention cleanliness and other stuff, that goes without saying. I personally think men have a lot more to worry about in bed then women. If you really push me for something, I'd say a woman who did not orgasm (or only with great difficulty) would be a problem to me. I remember Tristan, the first bachelorette saying she did not orgasm. Here she was choosing amongst 25 bachelors, ended up marrying Ryan and they are still married with kids and I wonder whether that problem (sorry to call it one) was ever resolved. The only other issue women may have is wondering whether they are kinky enough for the male.
justme2781 Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 every woman is different. i used to never orgasm with oral but have multiple with intercourse. so to say you have to do oral is a falicy. it depends on your woman.
pollywag Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 every woman is different. i used to never orgasm with oral but have multiple with intercourse. so to say you have to do oral is a falicy. it depends on your woman. Are you male or female? I'm interested in this topic, we need more answers from guys how does a woman fail in bed? I've often wondered what a man consideres bad sex, does he even consider bad sex? I thought guys saw sex as good as long as they were having some then it's great! For us women it's different it's not as simple as that.
LostFocus Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 I had an ex girlfriend that would bring up past relationships during sex. That would frustrate me to no end. I would get dressed and leave whenever she did that. As long as the female shows some enthusiasm I don't have a problem.
Author AnthonyF Posted April 10, 2009 Author Posted April 10, 2009 Anthony, you need to be willing to do oral on the woman if you want her to orgasm every time. I was answering what I thought a woman could do wrong in bed.... I am under the impression they can't do anything wrong if they bring a good attitude. And yes for a man that includes performing oral if that is what it takes to get a woman to cum.... I am missing the point of your comment??? So I asked the question in the OP and still not a single response as to what a woman can do wrong... Being unclean is not an answer and lying there or not being kinky enough can be an issue, which can affect both partners..... The point is I think and correct me if I am wrong..... Man have a whole lot more "performance issues" and stumbles then women. As long as a woman is a willing and active partner, does any man have a complaint????
pollywag Posted April 10, 2009 Posted April 10, 2009 As long as the female shows some enthusiasm I don't have a problem. As long as a woman is a willing and active partner, does any man have a complaint???? See! That's what I mean. We women are so damned complicated when it comes to sex, for you guys all there has to be is good participation and it's considered good sex. So simple. Then again, the plus for women is that we get to experience multiple orgasms while guys pretty much always end up with the same outcome. Sure some are stronger than others but pretty much that's it.
Author AnthonyF Posted April 10, 2009 Author Posted April 10, 2009 See! That's what I mean. We women are so damned complicated when it comes to sex, for you guys all there has to be is good participation and it's considered good sex. So simple. Then again, the plus for women is that we get to experience multiple orgasms while guys pretty much always end up with the same outcome. Sure some are stronger than others but pretty much that's it. Give us some time to recuperate and I'm sure we can go again.... Add to that that little blue pill or "Le Weekender" and we have some help..... Being an "old fart", I forgot what I could do in my 20's and frankly I screwed those years up.... The post above basically said the only turnoff is to be critiqued vs. an Ex.... Plain tacky.... Again one of the reasons for the post was Stone's prior post about her BF and the sex being bad..... Read the post and she seemed to bring everything to the table (dresses, roleplaying, healthy attitude....) and he just was not good in her words. She didn't say what originally, but as it came out it was what many of us males worry about.
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