SFhockey88 Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 My girlfriend and I had been dating for 6 months before we decided it was best that we have a break with our relationship. We actually decided to do so the day that it turned 6 months. Lets just say that I was very saddened by this. About our relationship... From the day we met, I knew there was something special about this girl. She knew how to make me smile on my worst days. We were perfect for each other. When we were together, there was never a dull moment. It was great. We were both happy and we rarely got into any kind of argument. Then, there was a period of a few weeks where our arguments just would not end. We would fix, or so we thought, one problem and another would pop up just as fast. Even though we were arguing, I have to say that I was still happy. There was never a time in our relationship where I haven't been happy. After that string of arguments I noticed something about her. She changed. She just seemed so distant and almost like she did not want to be with me. It really bothered me. Her behavior sparked even more argument over the few weeks leading up to our 6 month mark. And just last week when I went out of town with some friend, she seemed like she wanted me to go away. She never once said that she will miss me. She seemed almost apprehensive to even text me back when I was free to text her. She mentions that "sometimes people just need a break" after I confronted her about my problem with her recent behavior. I did not think anything of what she said at the time. Now, a couple days past the day we decided to break, I feel like she has completely lost feelings for me. She says she still loves me and that she promises the break is only short-term, but I cannot help but to believe she may be lying to me. I think she might just be saying this to either delay or to protect me from being hurt further. I do not want our relationship to end. Does someone have any idea about what has happened to her? Or possibly what I can do about this? I've never been through a temporary break before so any help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.
Thomas X Forever Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Ok where to start. This is textbook my friend She became distant because you kept arguing. This is so in your face obvious. Of course she'll become distant when you keep arguing! She is emotionally pulling herself further away each argument. Wtf dude this is clear as day. Secondly, break = breakup forever. It's over my friend. But it's ok, because there are so many women on Earth dude. SO many.
Author SFhockey88 Posted April 9, 2009 Author Posted April 9, 2009 I realize that the arguments have drawn her farther from me, but I believe the reason we started to argue in the first place is because she started to lose feelings for me. Our relationship was fine until I saw a change in her behavior. Most, if not all, of our arguments stemmed from me confronting her about her behavior. She only recently told me the truth that she has lost feelings for me. And she claims that she does not want our relationship to be over forever. Maybe I just need to forget about my love for her and end the pain now? I'm not sure how I could do this though... And thank you for the help Thomas. Your advice is greatly appreciated.
SRV Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Once a woman loses that feeling for you, most if not all the time, its a wrap. Time to move on to big and better things, GL!
Author SFhockey88 Posted April 9, 2009 Author Posted April 9, 2009 I guess you guys are right. Now I just have to figure out whether to forget about her completely or try and maintain friendship. Either way seems very painful. Edit: I just got done talking to her and we decided that our relationship won't work out for now. She said it would make her happy if we tried to stay friends and I agreed only because I want her to be happy. She was my first love and it's truly sad to see her leave after only 6 months. Forgetting her is going to be rough...
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