ucannever4getme Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Okay so this is going to be kinda long I will try to condense it as much as possible, but I really need some advice/guidance. I found out about 3 and a half weeks ago that my boyfriend of 2 years was cheating on me for 2 months. I work days and he works nights, and one Friday night he took off to spend time with me. He fell asleep early and I had been having some suspicions about him and his coworker texting so much so I looked in his phone and she was sending him messages like "Baby I love you so much" "I wish you could hold me right now" etc. So I woke him up and confronted him. He told me that they had been to the mall together to hang out and he had been over to her house a few times and that they had kissed 3 times. He swore that was it, but he said it was an emotional thing. They had said "I love you" to each other. I told him that he couldn't have both of us so I needed him to choose right then and there. He said HE COULDN'T CHOOSE!! So I left for a few hours and when I came back we sat down and talked he asked me to stay with him, vowed he was sorry and that he loved me not her. He said he couldn't give up being friends with her though, because they work together. So he called her while I was sitting there and told her that I knew what was going on, and that he had made a mistake. He told her part of him thought that he was over me, but he realized he was wrong. So he told her that he wanted to be with me and he didn't want to be with her anymore. But he still wanted to be friends with her. Well I wasn't really buying that either. So while he was sleeping I got her number from his phone and text her. She called me and we talked and I found out he hadn't been honest with me about what had happened. Apparantly they never went to the mall together he would go over to her house right after I went to work in the mornings and he did it a few times a week for 2 months. And they had sex twice and fooled around more than that. So I confronted him about it and he said they had sex once and he felt really bad so he stopped it. So he lied to me AGAIN. So that girl came over to our house and got everything out into the open and he admitted to all of the lies. Well I packed up all of my things and left the state to stay at my parent's house. I stayed there for 2 weeks and he text and called me every day before work, on his lunch break, and after work. He told me he hadn't been seeing the other girl, and that he really wanted me to come back home. He promised that it would never happen again. So part of me wants to trust him and I want to fix our relationship. So I came back. I have been home for about a week and a half. I am not working right now, so I am home all of the time, and he is with me all the time until he goes to work. So I know he hasn't been seeing her, but she texts him every night after work, and she is writing blogs about him on myspace saying she still loves him and if it's meant to be he will come back to her. He told me that he is trying to be her friend, but it feels awkward, so they are trying to talk everything out to make the awkwardness go away at work. I feel uncomfortable about them talking. I don't think that it will help their feelings go away if they continue to be friends. She went to a "lap dance party" this weekend and told him that she "did some things she shouldn't have" pretty much implying that she had sex with another guy. My boyfriend got upset about it saying that people at work had been saying that she was the type of person that always needs someone no matter who it is. And he said he is upset that he didn't mean as much to her as she said he did. I don't know what that matters to him anymore if it is over between them. I looked in his phone while he was sleeping this morning and there were two messages from her. they said "You tell me when and where I guess." and then "Okay Saturday." and I asked him what it was about and he said they needed to talk about what had happened and they would do it next time they worked together which will be saturday. Am I just being naive here? Should I just leave him for good before he hurts me even more? Or do I trust him? Do I confront him about my feelings and ask him to stop talking to her? Do I confront her about it? I am unsure of what to do now.. and I feel really uncomfortable.
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