Brady_to_Moss Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 I am always in this zone and just want to hear what are tips to stay out of this!
BCCA Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Dont be a doormat. Say whats on your mind, ask for what you want, and hold your ground. A lot of guys end here because they are so affraid of saying something to make a girl disinterested, that they become this total wuss that goes along with everything the girl wants, and she keeps pushing the envelope until youre nothing more than a source of attention. Also, you have to buck up and realize when someone friendzoned you, and walk away - never to look back. I see a lot of guys circling the same chick thats obviously not interested for years. Or trying to be friends, which to me, is an utter waste of time with someone who you were interested in. Dont be affraid, thats your best bet. Tell a girl you want to take her out, and if she says no, fine - NEXT! Dont accept 'well, my dog is sick, and i stubbed my toe...' type excuses, just laugh and walk away.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Dont be a doormat. Say whats on your mind, ask for what you want, and hold your ground. A lot of guys end here because they are so affraid of saying something to make a girl disinterested, that they become this total wuss that goes along with everything the girl wants, and she keeps pushing the envelope until youre nothing more than a source of attention. Also, you have to buck up and realize when someone friendzoned you, and walk away - never to look back. I see a lot of guys circling the same chick thats obviously not interested for years. Or trying to be friends, which to me, is an utter waste of time with someone who you were interested in. Dont be affraid, thats your best bet. Tell a girl you want to take her out, and if she says no, fine - NEXT! Dont accept 'well, my dog is sick, and i stubbed my toe...' type excuses, just laugh and walk away. This is great advice. More often then not, your female counterpart is testing your mental strength to see who's going to be the more dominant force in the relationship.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 Dont be a doormat. Say whats on your mind, ask for what you want, and hold your ground. A lot of guys end here because they are so affraid of saying something to make a girl disinterested, that they become this total wuss that goes along with everything the girl wants, and she keeps pushing the envelope until youre nothing more than a source of attention. My BF is more assertive than my XH was. He was never a jerky guy - always a gentleman to me. But I could see that in his life in general, he did not let people walk all over him. It was VERY attractive. I could see this in the way he talked about his relationships and his interactions with people. And he could DEFINITELY hold his own in conversation with me. I can be quite sarcastic at times and he definitely bites back. It's freaking hot - I love it. LOL You have to be a challenge to a woman. Meaning that you challenge her intellect and emotions. Don't be Mr. Niceguy/Doormat. I came to absolutely despise that in my X. So there really is a fine line between Doormat and Jerkoff. When you hear "don't be a doormat," it doesn't mean to go to the other extreme and start treating girls like ****. Just stand up for yourself in any situation where a normal, self-respecting person would do! And speak your mind, too. As long as you're not a burning racist or something similar, you should do fine. I also would say - do not wait to long (once you start dating somebody) to touch her. My BF was in danger of friend-zone because there was hardly any touching at all on the first date (he more than made up for it on the second date ). A light touch on the back when leading her into a room or a hug at the end of the date are entirely appropriate.
yongyong Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 you gotta create sexual tension. excuse my language. basically you should be able to convince her that you can & will FUxK her
CharismaCoach Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 The friend zone happens when you aren't clear with her that you have romantic intentions. There is a simple thing that I tell my clients to do that usually keeps them out of the friend zone. It is called a Statement of Intent The very first time you meet her and begin the conversation compliment a character trait of her with the word "Sexy". ex "I like that you are so creative, it is very sexy". Don't pause and wait for a reaction, just keep the conversation going. This is very clear to her that you are not just a friendly guy looking for a friend. The SOI (statment of intent) is a very easy way to be clear with your romantic intentions without coming on too strong. If this seems hard at all then you are definitely not being clear that you want anything more than being friends.
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