sultry33 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Recently met a guy who is really nice, texts me almost everyday..calls now an then.. not alot of free mins left:laugh: said how well we get on etc. He asked me out on a date i said ok but on the day planned he didnt mention it so i said sorry cannot make it tonight. As basically i need some notice. Since then lots more texts and a call, i say we def have to meet up soon and he replied straight away saying.. for sure. So when? Why do you think he is not actually suggested a time or place? we do go to the same club but its not the place to talk or get together I like him but am starting to think whats going on.. surely if he was not into me he wouldnt text lots..if at all its not often i text him 1st either. any thoughts? x
IcemanJB Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Wait I'm confused...why did you back out of the first one? Just suggest a place to go, and see if he runs with it.
alphamale Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 He asked me out on a date i said ok but on the day planned he didnt mention it so i said sorry cannot make it tonight. As basically i need some notice. how could you say "sorry, can't make it tonite" if he didn't mention anything???
Author sultry33 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 hi, i guess i could suggest a place.. but im not keen to get rejected. i backed out the 1st time as he said sunday but didnt say where.. and when sunday arrived by lunch he hadnt said anything else so i got busy. ?
2sure Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Have you met in person yet or has this been an on line thing that now includes texts & calls?
Author sultry33 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 Have you met in person yet or has this been an on line thing that now includes texts & calls? hi 2sure.. yea we met in person at the club.. almost 2 weeks ago and after the club he called me for like 3hrs.. since then he calls now an then but texts almost daily and constantly.. im just not sure where its going?
Awesome84 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Sultry... I see what you are saying and why you backed out. I hate when guys suggest a date and then don't follow up before the date to confirm. IDK... I guess I was brought up the old fashioned way (even though I am only 29). And I don't like to WAIT.. on any guy. If a guy suggest a date... we need to know time and place. Or atleast let us know that you want US to give the time and place. Don't just make us wait. Is that about right Sultry?? Anyhow... I would keep him on a long string until he can get his act together. He's obviously interested a little bit to be texting and calling... but if he's not following through with plans... he may be a waste of your time. Maybe he's shy or something.
bean1 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Let this one go, he isn't interested. Facts: - Met you 2 weeks ago - Didn't choose a time, place, or even call on that Sunday (wasn't interested enough to bother) - Have not met since 2 weeks ago when you met? - Texts (minimal effort) and sometimes calls, but can't meet This is a "backburner" scenario, or even worse, might already have a GF?
Author sultry33 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 Sultry... I see what you are saying and why you backed out. I hate when guys suggest a date and then don't follow up before the date to confirm. IDK... I guess I was brought up the old fashioned way (even though I am only 29). And I don't like to WAIT.. on any guy. If a guy suggest a date... we need to know time and place. Or atleast let us know that you want US to give the time and place. Don't just make us wait. Is that about right Sultry?? Anyhow... I would keep him on a long string until he can get his act together. He's obviously interested a little bit to be texting and calling... but if he's not following through with plans... he may be a waste of your time. Maybe he's shy or something. hi, yes thats exactly it.. my way of thinking.. he has said he is shy and when said about meeting up he seems keen.. im just not the patient type:laugh: plus as i like him im bit worried i get bored of waiting.. im 37 so maybe its the silly age thing.. he is 27.. have other options too which is another reason.. i dont want to date if he is infact very interested..
alphamale Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 This is a "backburner" scenario, ... i think its more a "behing the stove" scenario from what was presented
Awesome84 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 have other options too which is another reason.. i dont want to date if he is infact very interested.. Ummm NO... Keep dating!! Even if he IS interested... there are no guarantees that it would work out. Screw that he's 27... he should be mature enough to know the rules of dating (or should he??) Don't you want to go out with someone who IS mature enough to be considerate enough of a follow-through on plans??? Sorry... this gets me upset alittle because I have delt with a couple of guys who did the same thing to me. Acted like they liked me... then when date time comes.... WTF??? As I said... Keep him on a LONG string if you like him. Play hard to get. Don't take his calls all the time and don't answer his texts right away!! Unfortunantly with guys like him... we have to resort to game playing! Which is what I'd do anyway. Or else I'd just drop him!
LoveLace Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 The age thing, I sometimes wonder, DOES make a difference in a sitch like this...younger, less experienced women that don't know what they want, are likely to be passive and it might be something he's more used to... You might as well treat it as though he isn't interested, even if he really is. The fact that he hasn't actually gotten past texting/calling and has made uncertain plans to date, tells me he's just liking the attention or something, as of now. He might even be a little afraid of the unknown if he's never dated an "older woman" before...seriously...not that you are old, I'm close to your age, but guys in their 20's call single women in their 30's "cougars"...as though we are a different kind of breed...lol You were the one who last confirmed and hinted to him about going out. So if you just stay quiet long enough, he should eventually say, "Hey, I thought we were going to hang sometime?"....if that never happens, then you know he isn't the guy for you, because obviously you don't want to be the one hinting around and initiating all the time...who does?
bean1 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I've said it before, if a guy is really interested in a girl, he could be stranded on Mt Fuji without a cell phone and will still find a way to meet her for a date. It's women who convince themselves (I used to as well) that a man is either "shy" or whatever. Shy guys don't exchange information with girls they meet at clubs. They either don't go to clubs or don't talk to any new people.
Author sultry33 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 Let this one go, he isn't interested. Facts: - Met you 2 weeks ago - Didn't choose a time, place, or even call on that Sunday (wasn't interested enough to bother) - Have not met since 2 weeks ago when you met? - Texts (minimal effort) and sometimes calls, but can't meet This is a "backburner" scenario, or even worse, might already have a GF? hi bean, i know his circle of friends.. and they not said he has.. trouble with me is i normally blow guys out too quick and with him i was hopin it would be different.. but i wont chase x
bean1 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 hi bean, i know his circle of friends.. and they not said he has.. trouble with me is i normally blow guys out too quick and with him i was hopin it would be different.. but i wont chase x Fair enough, I'm sure his friends are right about the no GF, but he would have asked you out on a confirmed date 2 weeks ago if he was truly interested. You are 37, I think you have already done the dance with that before and know how lukewarm men never "warm up".
Awesome84 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 blow guys out too quick LOL... Sorry... my mind must be in the gutter today!! :lmao:
Author sultry33 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 to be honest im not really into older guys.. ive tried but just not on the same wavelength.. in my social time im surrounded by younger people and some older but i def click more with the younger. most would say im hard to get harder to keep;) as i just go with the flow kinda thing.. im the worst for texting back or making inital contact.. so even though it may be classed as "game playing" its really just how i am.. my flaw is that i loose interest i love the thrill of being chased but get bored when caught.. im just not reading things with the new guy.. hope i dont come across as a biatch im just me..
Author sultry33 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 LOL... Sorry... my mind must be in the gutter today!! :lmao: thats me all over lol few weeks ago my friend an me was playin with ice.. this guy walked past and as i was wet from ice i said "blow me" not goodthing to say to a guy.. i dont drink sambucca anymore
Author sultry33 Posted April 9, 2009 Author Posted April 9, 2009 Fair enough, I'm sure his friends are right about the no GF, but he would have asked you out on a confirmed date 2 weeks ago if he was truly interested. You are 37, I think you have already done the dance with that before and know how lukewarm men never "warm up". hi bean, yes was giving this some thought today and decided to not bother.. just not sure if i completly ignore him if he texts or not? was thinking when he texts to just ask him outright.. where do u see this going? but nc at all im not sure of... any ideas be good to hear;)
LoveLace Posted April 9, 2009 Posted April 9, 2009 If he contacts you, I don't see why not ask where is it going...as long as the moment feels right to do so. You want to know, and need to know, so why not. I'd think a guy that really digs you, wouldn't mind the question.
Author sultry33 Posted April 9, 2009 Author Posted April 9, 2009 If he contacts you, I don't see why not ask where is it going...as long as the moment feels right to do so. You want to know, and need to know, so why not. I'd think a guy that really digs you, wouldn't mind the question. yea he just texted me ... he knows i dont sleep.. prob not the best time to ask him though:laugh: i just feel lately all im getting is friends.. i have plenty i want fun an a bit more.. if you know what i mean.. not just fwb
Author sultry33 Posted July 11, 2010 Author Posted July 11, 2010 Can you believe this guy still texts me:laugh: Well I never have gone on a date with him and he got in a rs soon after we met, was a friend he had known for yrs apparently. He tells me he is not happy and I said well do something then.. Have no idea why he keeps up the texts though.. find it weird as its almost every week. Also when i see him he always checks me out.. comes outside to talk to me. Im always just plain cool with him too. Dont get him at all:laugh:
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