Became friends with ex and now he is ignoring me, do I contact him?

[girlsweetness]

Hi,

 

My ex and I broke up about a year and a half ago, he is the one who left. We had six months of no contact than started to talk again, it was his idea to meet up again and try to see if things could work out. He is almost thirty, has never had a girlfriend except me so he has always been a confused soul when it comes to the matter of relationships. It basically became something where he was sending mixed messages like taking me out for my bday on a special date, making me v-day romantic supper and things of that nature, and then suddenly he talks about it lightly months later as if its just a friends with benefits deal. He had gotten tickets for a hockey game for my siblings because he gets them through work then a few weeks ago he asked me if they really wanted to go and that he would like to instead go with his dad. Even though he knows that the game is my family's home team and I was looking for tickets months ago and he offered to get them through his work. Anyhow thats when things became rude on his end where I felt he was becoming inconsiderate, slowly he started to call less, switched to texting and msn. He continued to msn chat with me and even met up for drinks last week. When we had drinks he was playing with my blackberry and seen some messages from a guy and after we each went home on msn he was like "how is that guy?". Even though he clearly told me we are just FRIENDS, he was evidently jealous even though he is on an online dating website and talks to girls all the time but it never gets into reality. We both use the same chat system and he joined a room I was in on a server and noticed some males in it and left the room. Since that day the only thing he sent me was the fact that he was going to the hockey game with his dad and didn't mean to be a total jerkface. Other than that he is just ignoring me. At one point in our friendship I simply didn't talk to him for a few days because a family member was in the hospital and he got pissed out of his mind and said he wouldn't even do that to his worst enemy. Sidenote: He will do anything his family and friends advise him to do, he is NOT able to make his own decisions in the relationship department, and I know he went out with friends he hasn't seen in a long time and if he shared anything about "us" they would advise him, and the matter in which he shares things is usually very negative because he already has negative thoughts about relationships. I am not sure what he is trying to say? And should I contact him, does it sound like I have done something wrong? Is it good to stay away or to ask why?

[Thomas X Forever]

Being friends with an ex is ALWAYS a bad choice in my opinion. Unless you have a child.

 

Secondly, it sounds like he just has residual jealousy because you were once together. I wouldn't talk it with too much weight at this point. He probably is just a little jealous because of how long you were together.

 

If you want to be with him, be with him. Otherwise, it's my honest opinion that you be without him.

[girlsweetness]

It is just odd that he would be jealous because he told me a month ago that what we had was a friendship with benefits. When I told him I was sorry but felt uncomfortable with physical intimacy because we were not in an official relationship he basically stated this was true and he didn't want to ruin our friendship. He has never gone through my phone in the entire time I have known him so that alone was very weird. The day before that occured he was asking me randomly about an ex I had right after we had broken up and then this whole thing. I just don't know why he would ignore me for that reason considering he doesn't even want a relationship with me. If I were ever to ignore him out of the blue he would be furious and think I was horrible. Part of me wonders if I should ask why but I don't want to get hurt in the end either.