Georgette Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 So maybe I should post this in the friendship forum. I had a crush on a guy I got to know over the past year. The first 6 months, we hung around alot (due to school stuff) and did recreational things such as going to bars and watching movies and what not. He never made a move however, so I just thought he was not interested. Sometimes he would flirt, but I would chalk it up to mild flirtation. In December we celebrated the holidays together, and all was good until we had an argument regarding he flirting with another girl and (due to alcohol) I threw a hissy fit (my bad) and left him at a party. This led to us not talking for a month, and an eventual confession of my crush on him, and an agreement to be friends. However, its been a few months since and he blows hot and cold. We don't talk or hang out much anymore, cept in groups because all our friends are mutual. He's kind of mean. And its hurtful, because I thought we were friends. I'm getting to a point where I dont even think he is a friend anymore and yeah, i may have a crush that is slowly fading away, but I'm just kind of sad. I just try to minimize contact. So question is: am i the girl that just does not go away? Can I salvage this friendship? Or have I devolved into an irritant (you know, the girl you just need to avoid)
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I don't think he's necessarily irritated by you. But you made it clear that you had a crush on him, he seemed pretty clear that he's not interested. So most likely he's just steering clear to keep you from developing feelings anymore than you already have. I would have a hard time being friends with somebody that I knew had the hots for me (and I wasn't interested). I'd always be wondering what their intention was or if they really COULD be "just friends." I just don't deal well with it and he may be the same way. He may have agreed to be friends, but he may have meant "no hard feelings."
Victoria2 Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I am sorry but forget all this stuff and find someone else ! Good luck!
era Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Hi Georgette See, the thing is - you were never g/f..b/f. Then you got your knickers in a knot just because he was flirting with a girl at a party. Then you confessed to having a crush on him and he did not reciprocate. You say he's been cold to you ever since. That doesn't sound good. I think he's just trying to let you down easy. He doesn't sound like he wants to be friends...I'm sorry to say.
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