EllieBean Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 A bit of background: I met my ex abroad and we had an LDR for a while, but he decided he couldn't handle it and dumped me. He wasn't dating anyone else, he just wanted a day-to-day relationship and he couldn't see how it could ever work out when we were so far apart. From changes in his Facebook status it seems he's briefly dated a couple of girls since then but is currently single. In the meantime I've met another guy who I love dearly, he's my best friend and treats me like a princess. The news: My ex emailed me to say that he's spending this week abroad in the same place where we met, and he doesn't want to be there when I'm not there, the place just has no life in it without me. He said it's little consolation given how things turned out between us, but he just wanted me to know that. Why? That's all he said - no "I miss you", "I want you back", or anything like that. Now I'm at a loss to understand why he bothered to email me this nugget of information - he's the one who dumped me, he hasn't contacted me in months, he clearly doesn't want to try again because we still live as far apart as ever, he knows I have a new bf... so why has he bothered to send me this email? How should I respond - should I even respond at all?
era Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 How should I respond - should I even respond at all? No It was a little nostalgia on his part. Just carry on.
Author EllieBean Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 Well, I briefly replied along the lines of: You're back there already - has it really been so long? I'm sorry you're not enjoying yourself, but glad you have some fond memories. He replied to say he was hoping I would have gone there this year, even though I said last year that I couldn't go this year. He also linked to a job advert at his company, and suggested I might apply if I was still considering moving to his town and felt I could put up with him for a while longer This is the guy who didn't want me to move to his town when we were having an LDR because it "wasn't logical" to change my life just for him, the guy who strung me along and ignored me for months on end, who hasn't spoken to me for ten months. And now he's sending me ads for jobs in his dept of his company?! I can't apply for the job anyway because the deadline is too short given my present commitments, so in reply I told him that and thanked him politely for sending it. But I still feel like: WTF?!
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