shadowsfall Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Don't want to sound clueluess but I regrettfully invited a girl out (2nd date) for the typical drink/movie sort of date. I'm not even a movie guy and I get the impression she's more of an outdoors type. Right now I'm leaning toward a walk along the beach. Anyway how can I revive the situation by offering up a more exciting alternative, and where are some good places to go?
CharismaCoach Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Try going for a hike and throwing a bottle of wine in the pack. Open it at the top (have some plastic or paper cups w/ you) and Wah-La! instant romance.
Author shadowsfall Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 Thats not bad Coach but unfortunately the date is tomorrow night which rules out hiking in the dark. I think I will definitely have to do that one weekend though.
CharismaCoach Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Don't try to impress a woman with a date. Usually it just comes off try hard. My three dates to success are: Coffee or drinks in the evening. An activity date that allows conversation: -art museum -hiking -Botanical Gardens -Picnic Dinner at my place made by me. The date really doesn't matter as long as the conversation is good. The only thing I find is that women do want dinner at some point. I date too much to buy dinners so I make them at my place. I usually avoid the movies because I cant have conversation.
BobSacamento Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 A walk through the park is always good. Pick a place near other potential activities. That way if you want to stop off for a bite to eat after or some drinks it's much smoother. Also make sure the place is open. I've done that before, man did I feel like an ass lol.
Author shadowsfall Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 Thanks for the suggestions guys. I let her know that I'm not really feeling the movie thing anymore, so we're just gonna meet up for some drinks first and then decide what to do. I think a few drinks might loosen us up enough so that we don't really care what we end up doing. The park thing sounds good, however the parks around here aren't exactly top notch. I know for a fact she doesn't like bowling. I considered indoor kart racing until I saw the prices, holy hell. I was also thinking miniture golf but that could be a tad bid adolescent right?
climbergirl Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 She seems active, so here are some ideas... Night hiking can be fun as long as you bring head torches and a backpack with snacks. Romantic, too. Disc golfing? Arcade places can be fun if they have pool tables, air hockey, video games. I don't at all think that miniature golf is childish. Does she not like bowling because she's bad at it? That's actually what I'm doing tonight, and we both suck at it. I think that makes it that much more fun!
wierdmunky Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I went on a indoor rock climbing date once, and thought that was pretty cool! I learned something new, he was coaching me, and there wasn't any tension or awkwardness because we were doing something. After wards we were hungry and went out to eat, had lots to talk about from already hanging out together to getting to know a little more about each others lives.
donnamaybe Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Go to the nearest omnimax or whatever you call it there and treat her to a movie about the alps, or the grand canyon (like are currently running in my area). If it's at night, which sort of precludes most outdoor activities, then a movie about the outdoors would be good.
Sam Spade Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Don't want to sound clueluess but I regrettfully invited a girl out (2nd date) for the typical drink/movie sort of date. I'm not even a movie guy and I get the impression she's more of an outdoors type. Right now I'm leaning toward a walk along the beach. Anyway how can I revive the situation by offering up a more exciting alternative, and where are some good places to go? The beach is fine if it does not involve going out of your way too much. See if you can find an outdoor movie (and bring a picnic basket). Or, take her bowling. Or, play tag . But, in general I personally prefer to have a conventional 2nd date and only thereafter think of more unstructured activities.
Author shadowsfall Posted April 10, 2009 Author Posted April 10, 2009 First of all thanks to everyone for the great date ideas. I definitely took them all in and plan on using them soon. However, it looks like it will have to be with a different woman perhaps. The date never even happened last night because she got sick. Actually she used the words '24 hour flu'. No big deal right? Well this is the 2nd time something has come up when I invite her out somewhere. Last weekend I invited her out and she said she didn't get my msg until a couple days after I invited her out because her phone wasn't working. And come on, the 24 hour flu, pleeeease!! She told me she was really sorry and was really looking forward to hanging out last night. The weekend before she said she WOULD of totally been down to get together. I'm spotting a trend here and I think this girl is full of ****. I try to give the benefit of the doubt as much as I can because I don't know her all that well, but now it seems ridiculous. You know its funny, she flirts her ass off with me, sends me texts saying she's thinking about me and invites me to hangout sometimes. She told me she wanted to hangout over spring break and yet I've given her several opportunities with which she has squandered. I can't figure her out anymore. It's also difficult because we have class every monday night so I don't want to start resenting her for this. I hate giving someone else this much power to influence my mood but this really pissed me off. Despite all of this, I hope I'm wrong about her and that maybe she was really telling the truth because sometimes I hate being right.
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