what2donowIII Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 When a woman breaks up with You what is the best thing to do to get her back? Is it truely give her the space she wants and let her initiate the contact? Do i let it go and pretend like im doing ok without her? i know i just gotta back off and let her miss me right? what is the best thing to do?
Thomas X Forever Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 First, tell her how much you care about her and the relationship. Tell her she has made you a better person, and done such good for you. Then tell her you can't talk to her if it's just as friends. Say it kills you but you just can't do it. Tell her you'll miss her and you want her to contact you WHEN SHE WANTS TO TRY THINGS AGAIN. Then go 100% no contact. Delete all her pictures. Erase ALL ties. DO NOT BREAK THE SILENCE. Disappear until she comes back. THIS IS YOUR ONLY CHANCE!!!!!
EllieBean Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Yep, give her the space she needs and get on with your life. If she wants you; she'll come back of her own accord. If you chase her, you'll look like a pathetic little puppy dog and she'll want you even less.
NINEBREAKER Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 what led to the breakup. how did she break it off. tell us more about how it ended
Melrapuo Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 There's no way of making her come back to you. It's a sad truth that most of us have to face when we're in the position of the dumpee and not the dumper. I've gone through this twice. I dated a girl for two years, and then she dumped me for someone else. The first couple weeks I begged and pleaded. When I finally learned to go NC, she would try and message me every couple weeks to see what I was up to. When I gave in, she just pulled the same crap. Eventually I just gave up and moved on with my life (though it was extremely hard. But that was last summer, and I'm still here, aren't I?) Now I'm going through a second break up. The relationship only lasted 3 months. Things were obviously not working as well as we had hoped (relationship hit a stand-still), but I was still willing to give it a chance. My ex, on the other hand, decided that I was "perfect, but not perfect for her." She also chose to do it over facebook chat instead of face-to-face. I immediately told her we couldn't be friends, deleted her off of facebook, and have not talked to her since (we broke up Friday). I can tell you right now that I am a lot of emotional pain, and I'm stuck in a position where I may have to avoid people for a while, since we both share the same circle of friends. But I know what I'm doing is right for ME. That's all you can do at this point. You cannot gaurantee that she is gonna come back to you. At all. All you can do is focus on yourself. Either way, if she comes back or not, at least you'll know that YOU are ok.
NINEBREAKER Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 There's no way of making her come back to you. It's a sad truth that most of us have to face when we're in the position of the dumpee and not the dumper. I've gone through this twice. I dated a girl for two years, and then she dumped me for someone else. The first couple weeks I begged and pleaded. When I finally learned to go NC, she would try and message me every couple weeks to see what I was up to. When I gave in, she just pulled the same crap. Eventually I just gave up and moved on with my life (though it was extremely hard. But that was last summer, and I'm still here, aren't I?) Now I'm going through a second break up. The relationship only lasted 3 months. Things were obviously not working as well as we had hoped (relationship hit a stand-still), but I was still willing to give it a chance. My ex, on the other hand, decided that I was "perfect, but not perfect for her." She also chose to do it over facebook chat instead of face-to-face. I immediately told her we couldn't be friends, deleted her off of facebook, and have not talked to her since (we broke up Friday). I can tell you right now that I am a lot of emotional pain, and I'm stuck in a position where I may have to avoid people for a while, since we both share the same circle of friends. But I know what I'm doing is right for ME. That's all you can do at this point. You cannot gaurantee that she is gonna come back to you. At all. All you can do is focus on yourself. Either way, if she comes back or not, at least you'll know that YOU are ok. that all depends on the person
Author what2donowIII Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 thanks i posted our story earlier today check it and and give your comments please i really need it.
Melrapuo Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 that all depends on the person The person being dumped or the person dumping? So far, at least from what I've experienced, no begging or pleading will convince your ex to come back. And if they do, it isn't for the right reasons.
NINEBREAKER Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 The person being dumped or the person dumping? So far, at least from what I've experienced, no begging or pleading will convince your ex to come back. And if they do, it isn't for the right reasons. both i was refering to the dumper though.
Thomas X Forever Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 The only way to really get them back is to state your case and disappear. Let it linger in their head. Or tell them you're going to kill yourself if they don't come back. lol, which is extremely pathetic and the relationship will last about 3-4 days
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