somedude81 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 During conversations with girls it's common that topic of relationships come up. When somebody wants to know about my relationship history I don't know if I should lie or not. If I tell a girl that I've never had a girlfriend would that be a red flag for her? Or if she wants to know how long ago that I dated anybody should I avoid the truth of that it was 5 years ago or just be honest? I'm worried that telling the truth would actually lower any interest a girl may have in me.
ATJNL Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I think it is really great!! then we have more luck...but can be scary later
Author somedude81 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 Oops I forgot to mention that I'm 27. Though I'm telling most girls that I'm 23.
EllieBean Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Lying about your age is not a good start to a relationship! I would tend to think: If this guy lied about his age, what else has he lied about? You shouldn't lie about anything, whether its your age, your experience, or how long since you had a date. If I found out a guy hadn't had a gf, I would go Awww and feel all smushy and loving about how sweet he was. I'd assume he must really like me since he hasn't bothered to date anyone else he's met. I might wonder if he would know how to treat me given his lack of experience, and might perhaps feel a little worried about what sex would be like with someone inexperienced, but I would generally think it was sweet and nice. If however he had slept around but just not made any of those girls his gf, that would be a huge red flag!
Author somedude81 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 Wow EllieBean your reply was so complete it even answered questions I was going to ask I do think it's a bad thing to lie about my age because getting caught won't be good. Like you said she might think about what else I have lied about. I only lie about my age for one reason and that's because of her age. Since I'm in college the vast majority of girls I'm running into are 18-22. Next semester there is going to be a new batch of freshmen girls coming in. Most of them will be 18 and I'm going to be 28. What would an 18 year old girl think about guy 10 years older than her is interested in her? That's why I lie. I wonder if it's better to just not tell them? If I found out a guy hadn't had a gf, I would go Awww and feel all smushy and loving about how sweet he was. I'd assume he must really like me since he hasn't bothered to date anyone else he's met. If however he had slept around but just not made any of those girls his gf, that would be a huge red flag! Wait, so you assume that he never bothered to date anybody instead of the fact that he hasn't been able to, that girls don't like him for some reason? I've actually had girls tell me that the reason I've been single for so long is that I haven't met the right person. do they really believe that is the only reason? I might wonder if he would know how to treat me given his lack of experience, and might perhaps feel a little worried about what sex would be like with someone inexperienced, but I would generally think it was sweet and nice. Those are very valid concerns. Frankly I don't have a clue how to treat a girl I'm dating. I don't know proper BF/GF etiquette. The sex would be huge issue. I'm basically as experienced as a virgin even though I'm not one. Both of those reasons are why I tend to go for younger girls. I think a girl 25 would have much higher expectations that one that is 18. That's why I also don't want girls to know my true age because my experience is far below what a guy my age should have.
EllieBean Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I wouldn't assume that you couldn't get a date - if I find you attractive, why wouldn't other girls like you too? I would think your inexperience was sweet actually. I don't think you need to mention age unless asked, but if asked you should be honest. If a girl doesn't want an older guy, it's best you find out sooner rather than later. But most girls like older guys anyway Lack of experience would not be an issue for the right girl if she really liked you. I would actually enjoy having an inexperienced guy who I could teach about sex, as long as he was willing to learn! I could really see myself being the Mrs Robinson type when I'm older, lol, it would be a huge turn-on to teach someone about sex.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Don't lie. Own who you are. The truth always comes out, anyway.
Enema Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 I'm a guy, so my opinion may be off. But, if a guy told me he'd never had a girlfriend I'd assume it's because he was either: - Ugly - Socially awkward - Player
Author somedude81 Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 I wouldn't assume that you couldn't get a date - if I find you attractive, why wouldn't other girls like you too? I would think your inexperience was sweet actually. I don't think you need to mention age unless asked, but if asked you should be honest. If a girl doesn't want an older guy, it's best you find out sooner rather than later. But most girls like older guys anyway Lack of experience would not be an issue for the right girl if she really liked you. I would actually enjoy having an inexperienced guy who I could teach about sex, as long as he was willing to learn! I could really see myself being the Mrs Robinson type when I'm older, lol, it would be a huge turn-on to teach someone about sex. Heh, your post is the best case scenario. You seem to be a very understanding person. Though I don't know if yours is the majority or not. I still don't understand how inexperience can be sweet. But I guess it's different strokes for different folks. I do know that women like older guys. But is there a cutoff. Even though I'm probably on about the same maturity level them it's still 10 years older. When I was a Senior in High School they were in 2nd or 3rd grade... Hmm, I wonder if I'm putting too much thought on the age thing and trying to psyche myself out? I would like to meet a girl who would be willing to teach me. I'm certainly eager to learn. The key word though is the right girl. I'm sure there will be girls who would be annoyed that when a man doesn't have a clue what he's doing. I just guess everybody is different and expects different things. Don't lie. Own who you are. The truth always comes out, anyway. That is true, the truth finds a way. But is it better to hide certain things until the time is right? I just feel that telling the truth upfront won't help me. It's not a good thing but I've become pretty good at telling half-truths. As long as their is a sense of believability it is harder to get caught. I'm a guy, so my opinion may be off. But, if a guy told me he'd never had a girlfriend I'd assume it's because he was either: - Ugly - Socially awkward - Player Off or not your opinion is the same as mine. I'm not ugly at all and I've been called cute by several girls. I've also received compliments on my hair, clothes, shoes etc. I'm not ridiculously good looking and there is nothing physically unappealing about me except for being a 5'6 white guy. As much as I would like to be a player. A girl will be able to instantly tell that I'm not one. That's a lie that I can't pull off. The correct answer is socially awkward. More so in my youth than now but traces still remain. I do wonder if a girl would actually pick up on that as a reason though?
BobSacamento Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 Dude it's not a bad thing. If anything it's a good thing. NO BAGGAGE Honestly, a woman asking that throws up a red flag.
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