prettybaby Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 After how long do you announce to your parents that you're seeing someone and how do you go about it? (Obviously, if you're still living with them, this issue solves itself from the second you start dating lol) My guy has mentioned me to pretty much his entire family and it sounds like they've even seen pictures of me already, so I'm guessing I'll probably be introduced to them in person some time before Summer. Soooo ... it's probably time for me to mention him to my parents as well, and I'm soooo nervous. I have been trying to bring it up several times already, and I just cannot get it out of my mouth. There's also the fact that he's 14 years older, and that he's my former high school teacher, so God help me.
Zorie Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I don't think there a right or wrong answer for this. I think it depends on when you've established that you've become exclusive and you feel the relationship has potential to grow into something longterm. If you are worried about your parents reaction, you could bring it up casually over dinner saying "so I thought I'd let you know I've been seeing someone for a while now and things are going great." Before you know it they'll be asking all sorts of questions and whatever you want to divuldge will be out there
Trialbyfire Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Don't worry about it. Just tell them when you feel the time is right. When I was in that STR last year, they literally flipped when I told them he was an actor! They refused to meet him and didn't want me to continue seeing him. I can understand passing judgement after meet and greet but to refuse to meet him, without ever talking to or having any exposure to him, was unacceptable. We ended up at a deadlock, with them basically saying it was my life, of which I said, "yup", and that was that!
Author prettybaby Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 I know, I slightly feel like hyperventilating when I think about bringing it up. It never seems like the right time. I have lunch with my parents twice a week (over at their house), and it seems like they're always caught up in the most random topics you could think of. Of course, part of it is probably me making excuses for myself because I haven't had the guts to announce it yet. I just know that they'll start asking some questions about him as soon as I mention it, and it will be kind of hard to hide the fact that he's my former teacher. I think the age difference is something they'll need a little getting used to, so the teacher thing on top of it, I'm not so sure how they'll take it ...
fthog Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I have had one relationship, from the ages of 20 to 22, and I never told my parents at all. I lived away from home, and so there was no way for them to find out. They did come to suspect something one time, she inevitably was mentioned once or twice just as a friend. The relationship ended after 26 months and I was planning on bringing her to meet my parents when they were on holiday near where we lived at would have been around 4 months after that. I still wouldn't have told them that "this is my girlfriend", but I would have let them infer it and then not deny it.
Author prettybaby Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 Well I *think* they suspect I'm dating, but I'm pretty sure they don't know how serious it's getting and they're not asking anything at all. Don't get me wrong, I do want to announce it. He has announced it to his family, so I want to do the same. It's only fair. He's a sweet guy and I can definitely see us staying together on the long run. It would be weird not to tell them anything. I'm just not sure how to bring it up exactly. It feels kind of awkward.
mr.dream merchant Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I guess my parents are super cool cause I told them the first week I started dating my GF. That was about a year ago. I feel like its different for a female because she didn't tell her parents she was dating me until about 2 months. Before that she'd just bring me up around them as a "guy friend". I clowned on her for being a loser lmao.
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