ameeker Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I went to see my ex after less than a year. Things were like before everything went downhill. When I got emotional his friends sat me down and told me how he talked about me every day, especially the two weeks before I visited. They said he never mentioned anyone else in his past and that he mentioned that he would wait 10-15 years for me. I was optimistic. Now that I'm home, I try to call him and he won't even answer the phone. WHY???
Alex_M Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Is there any more to this story? Did you break up with him? What happened? Can't tell ya much with what you've given
EllieBean Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Perhaps he realised how much he missed you, and he's avoiding contact because keeping in touch with you hurts too much? Equally, perhaps he realised you're not as great as he remembered and he doesn't want you back any more?
twicebitten Posted April 8, 2009 Posted April 8, 2009 ... need MORE info as to the breakup, etc., to get a 'feel' for what may be happening!? XO - TB -
Author ameeker Posted April 8, 2009 Author Posted April 8, 2009 More information: We dated over four years and lived together less than one year. In the time we lived together we had to move 7 times and he was unemployed during most of that time. We got in a cycle of no respect-->no love-->no respect-->no love. When we applied for food stamps and he wanted to buy groceries that day, I kicked him out. During the time he was living out of a hotel, I disappeared. He thought I moved in with someone else when I had moved back home so that my parents could pull me out of poverty. Several months afterwards, I contacted him and for several months after that we talked about what actually happened so that we could get closure (we talked every two weeks or so). Then several months after that we had small talk. Then I told him we can't be friends. Then the next month after he calls me back and says he wants to be friends. Then I fly up to see him for a weekend to see how we interact face-to-face. Then I return home. I call him Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. Then he disappears. The times I called him he seemed happy, so it is more puzzling to me that he is unreachable now.
stephy Posted April 11, 2009 Posted April 11, 2009 More information: We dated over four years and lived together less than one year. In the time we lived together we had to move 7 times and he was unemployed during most of that time. We got in a cycle of no respect-->no love-->no respect-->no love. When we applied for food stamps and he wanted to buy groceries that day, I kicked him out. During the time he was living out of a hotel, I disappeared. He thought I moved in with someone else when I had moved back home so that my parents could pull me out of poverty. Several months afterwards, I contacted him and for several months after that we talked about what actually happened so that we could get closure (we talked every two weeks or so). Then several months after that we had small talk. Then I told him we can't be friends. Then the next month after he calls me back and says he wants to be friends. Then I fly up to see him for a weekend to see how we interact face-to-face. Then I return home. I call him Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday. Then he disappears. The times I called him he seemed happy, so it is more puzzling to me that he is unreachable now. So you kicked him out because yall got food stamps and he wanted to buy food with the food stamps.Isnt that the reason yall got food stamps is to buy food? He was living in a hotel and you dissapeared.You moved back in with parents so they could get you out of poverty.He probably assumed you was with someone else cause like you said you dissapeared.Then you tell him yall cant be friends then you fly up to see him.then he dissapears.Sorry to say this but it seems he is more of a convenience to you then anything.You want him but only when its convenient for you but when things are going bad on his part its bye bye time.Seems to me he is paying you back in his own way for what you did to him. Like the saying goes if you cant love a person at there worst then you dont deserve them at there best.Let him find someone that is there for him at all times and you go out and find someone that will do the same.
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