jadelil25 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Ok my boyfriend and I met each other about 3 months ago on line and most of the time things seem to go well. We see each other a couple of times a week. We both still have online dating profiles but we hid them as soon as we knew we was happy with each other. I went on to the site the other day because I received a message from admin saying that someone had duplicated my profile. When I was online I noticed that he had been on there that day and also two weeks before hand. His profile is still hidden tho so no one can find him in the search results. I have just kept mine because he still has his. I would understand if it was a social site like face book but it is a proper dating site and it is free so its not as if he has to use it until his subscripton expires. He knows about me being cheated on in the past and said he would never do that. We have also had a serious talk, I asked him to be honest no matter what and he said that he is and always will be and that he wants me/needs me to do the same. He has said that I make him happy, that he cares about me a lot, likes me and wants to make me happy for a long time. He is the one who said that he wants a long term serious relationship and is not interested in anything casual! Now that ive seen that he has been on the site im worrying a bit. I really like him and want things to work and I know the relationship is still new/in early stages. Am I worrying over nothing? Is it normal for someone to still keep there online profile for a while and check it known and then? Im going out of my mind and would really apreciate your help! Thank you!
Island Girl Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I don't know why he'd log in. Maybe someone else can help with that. But you logged in today because of admin issues, right? So maybe he was logging in to check and see if you had been logging in. Plausible right? You guys have been seeing each other for 3 months. He has said he wants to see where things go with you. His profile is hidden so it isn't as if the women out there who are searching can find him. For all rights and purposes he has been "taken off the market". So relax. Enjoy the relationship. Don't be so worried. If you feel like you must you can say you had to log in because of the admin contact and mention that you saw he was in there recently too. Then see what he says. But, to me, it wouldn't even be worth it to say anything. I really do not think it is a big deal at all.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 I always find it funny when people come here to ask "why" rather than just asking their SO. I would outright ask my BF if I noticed such a thing. You had an innocent enough reason to be on there - it's not like you were stalking him. Why can't you just ask him? But I also wanted to add - I had exchanges with my BF while on eH - I wish I still had access to them. I tend to forget things a little easily and would like to refresh my memory, but I can't. All I have is email and we started that after like the 4th or 5th exchange on the website. It sucks - I wanna go back and relive the moment. Weird, I know - but that would have been MY reason if I still had an account. Just ask him!
flash582 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 OK .... how do you want to be perceived here? As the Jealous Girlfriend that is going to be checking up on him all the time because she has Trust Issues? ,,,, Why are you doing this to me??? Or the Concerned Girlfriend .... hey, someone is hacking my profile On-Line .... can you show me how to go in and delete our accounts? I don't want issues with Identity Theft. Or the Straightforward Girlfriend .... Hey I got a note that someone hacked my profile on .. xxxxx .com .... I saw you had logged in too ... are you having the same issues? Do you think someone is screwing with us? Or the laid back girlfriend. ...... and do nothing but be wary of other things ... excess text messaging, phone rings when your out on a date, missed dates and excuses that don't make any sense ... then investigate further.
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