Drewau2005 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Please help. I am newly married to my wife Jayne and I said something stupid on the weeknd and now she will not have anything to do with me. I am utterly heartbroken. We have recently come back from our honeymoon and Jayne has not yet moved into my house. I had a terrible week at work last wek and was very stressed. Friends and Jayne were coming over for a dinner party on Saturday night. I hadn't heard heard from my wife for three days prior and was feeling unhappy. She texted me on Friday saying "what time will I come over on Saturday?" I replied, stupidly, "come over but it will be the last time" When she came over to the dinner party, she had no intention of staying and went to leave when the other guests left. I said we need to talk and said "can I talk tomorrow?" "She said tomorrow is a yucky day". I saw red and said that I don't want to be your partner anymore. "She said you're dumping me?" and strormed out. I don't know what came over me. I didn't mean it. We've just come back from a honeymoon and had a great time. Our communication has been strained at times as we both dissociate a bit. Our love has never been in question. It was stupid of me to say what I did, I can only figure I said it as to get a reaction, to get Jayne to move in quickly. Now she won't talk to me at all. I have sent her flowers and if I ring she slams the phone down immediately. She has somewhat of a history of not coming around if someone offends her, she hasn't spoken to most of her family in years. I am really scared that she will not come back, I love her and am utterly heartbroken. I am really sorry for what I said. To make matters worse, we are due to have a reception in our honour in about 5 weeks and I may have to cancel and tell my friends and co-workers which will utterly destroy my reputation.
mark982 Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 you come back from your honeymoon and don't hear from her for 3 days?? somethings screwy here. Seems to me there's alot of missing pieces that you're not telling us.
Mr. Lucky Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Seems to me there's alot of missing pieces that you're not telling us. Agreed. And since you're not living together or speaking to each other, I'd say you're more separated than married. How long have you known each other? How long engaged? Mr. Lucky
AnthonyF Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Why are you not living together..... I think you have this whole marriage thing ass backwards......
2sure Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Not only are you not living together, but she is a GUEST in your home? Clearly distance is not the issue, since she was abole to be included in a dinner party. Is there a green card issue floating around anywhere? Is this "reception" expecting to bring some cash gifts?
EllieBean Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 It seems very odd that you're married and not living in the same house, and it's extremely odd to come back from honeymoon and not hear from your wife for three days! I second 2sure's question: Is there a green card issue floating around here? Is there any other reason why she might have married you if she didn't really want to? Because it sounds like she isn't too keen on you, despite you being newlyweds. It was rather childish of you to threaten her, but I can understand why you felt stressed and just wanted to get a reaction from her. What do you mean when you said you both dissociate? Why has your communication been strained?
Author Drewau2005 Posted April 7, 2009 Author Posted April 7, 2009 Hi thanks for your replies. No there is no Green Card issue here. There was some rennovations to the house which were done while we are away which are now largely finished, especially for some cosmetic things. I just felt she was in no hurry to move in and that's why I sadi what I did. Turning up to my dinner part and then going to leave made me saw red. Dissociate as in Cognitive Dissonace - people may hold simultaneous contradictory views and rationalise their behaviour to justify one at one time and another at anther time
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