moman Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 My girlfriend got very upset today as she was using my computer and saw my email box and I have a folder with my last girl's name. I didn't think it was a big deal but she was very upset and doesn't think I've moved on though she has no reason to think that. So, what is the rule for emails and photos of ex's?
neowulf Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 My girlfriend got very upset today as she was using my computer and saw my email box and I have a folder with my last girl's name. I didn't think it was a big deal but she was very upset and doesn't think I've moved on though she has no reason to think that. So, what is the rule for emails and photos of ex's? Depends. Got any reason to keep them? If you never look at them, what are they there for? Memories? Do you want those memories? I have kind of mixed feelings on this stuff myself. Those who forget the past are destined to repeat it. It's been useful for me to look back time to time and think about the mistakes of the past. That said, I moved all my personal stuff to a placed tucked away in the middle of no where, so the girlfriends aren't likely to just stumble over it. Up to you. It's your history. Your life. She's feeilng insecure. That's not your issue. It's hers. Help her through that and she shouldn't care.
SoulSearch_CO Posted April 7, 2009 Posted April 7, 2009 Girls have a hard time understanding the degree to which guys are able to compartmentalize. You have it in a box in your mind titled "past." I would assume it holds no sentimental value for you (if that's what you told her). My BF has a coffee table that has a bunch of pictures in it. One of the pictures is of his most recent ex. I've considered asking him to get rid of it, but what do I care? I'm the one in his life now and I know he loves me and I trust him. Maybe if you showed her the dates on the emails so she can see they are all IN THE PAST and that she is the only woman in your life, now. I personally dumped all the pictures from my computer of my ex. I still have emails from him, but they don't mean anything to me. They're in a general folder with some other people. Maybe she's upset that your ex has her own little folder? I have no idea, just giving you some ideas.
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